One misses him when he is away, why not care when he is together?

- Guftego- Dr. Chandrakant Mehta

- 'How can I live, without remembering you, can the eyelids ever remain, without filling the matku? - Manahar Modi'

One misses him when he is away, why not care when he is together?

Haroon Khatri, Warawad, Jamkhambhalia, (Saurashtra)

G One is ultimately the sum of milan-virah. It is impossible to predict who will come and who will leave a person's life. Life is full of possibilities.

A man likes expressions of affection, love, emotion and intimacy so he extends his relationship. This does not happen in any one area. An employer likes his loyal, efficient and virtuous servant. But until it is, it is not appreciated. If he leaves, another person is hired in his place, but if he does not choose the same as the one who worked before, the employer is liable to lose him. Man likes to worship dungara with umbara meaning 'Ghar ka jogi jogay, bahar ka jogi siddha.'

It is the same in social relations. As long as a wife, son, friend or elder is close, his virtues are not visible, but when he loses them or separates for any reason, his nature is evaluated and his loss is felt. Spaces are filled but the 'space' remains empty. No one can replace anyone. Because every human being has some inherent limitations and also features. A person does not see the inherent beauty of a person who lives close or with him, but cannot bear even one of his faults. But in the absence of such a person, remembering his virtues makes his loss worse.

Relatives and friends have expectations towards the immediate man. One who can satisfy such an expectation is dear to him. And when it is not near, man tries to understand it in its true sense.

As there is joy in union, so also in separation there is pain, along with the joy of one's sincere remembrance.

As one subhashit in Sanskrit says 'excessive familiarity leads to disobedience.' So says the poet Rahim

"Rahiman Ati Keijiye,

Stay here, self harm,

Sahijan is very full

Dar-pat ho hani.''

It means that one should not 'overdo' anything. Always work within limits. See, the branches and leaves are damaged by the sargavan tree's excessive fruiting and flowering.

Attachment plays an important role in human relationships. A submissive person maintains that attachment, but the element of warmth decreases in it.

Often, due to cleanliness, wastage of money, misbehavior, unethical behavior of the child, curses are uttered such as throwing him out of the house, but really, when the son or daughter leaves without being told, the spring of Vatsalya starts flowing in the heart of the parents with double speed. For his return, he waits with thirsty eyes for his return with the help of means of lamentation or doordarshan.

When a relative goes abroad, the desire of family or friends to meet him becomes intense. When the child is at home, the parents do not spend time talking to him, but when he goes away, they often talk for a long time on the phone or on the Internet. Its absence bothers them.

So the human mind is calculating. If a close person does a favor, one does not notice the person's good work under the simple and popular excuse of 'it was his duty', but when that person goes away, he remembers the duties he has performed, the favors he has done. Relatives weigh a man with the scales of intellect when he is near, and watch him with the eyes of the spirit when he is far away.

Saint Thiruvallur has given the answer in beautiful words as to what is the duty of a son towards his father. The duty of a son towards his father is that people should see him and ask the father, because of what penance you have got such a son? Parents do not give much importance to their daughter until she gets married, but as poet Botad Kar has said

"Daughter Vyom's blue ray,

Goddess of Devloka,

Ray flies without seeing

Like a forest bird.''

A man cannot live without remembering his relatives or loved ones. Yad is the reward of a life enjoyed is a poignant share of Late Poet Manhar Modi -

How can I live?

Without remembering you

May the eyelashes ever remain,

Without filling the pot.

Even with gods and goddesses, man maintains a relationship of calculation. God who gives fruits according to his prayers is good, but if he does not get fruits, then the service of God becomes oat. Even in politics, even though some leader is excellent, people still do not evaluate him properly because of that proximity, but when he is not in power and the ruler who comes in his place chooses a better leader than the previous leader, people feel sorry for the greatness of that lost leader.

Therefore, the mind will not be dissatisfied by considering them as lovable without any doubt or expectation among family-relatives or friends. If he does not have such a man, he will make up for his loss by remembering his virtues. One who always sees the virtues in people will not have the time to repent, because instead of seeing the virtues or virtues of others, instead of seeing the virtues or merits of others, due to their own expectations, cravings, lusts, they see their vices.

A man should make his personality like an incense or a flower so that its fragrance spreads to others.

That is why God himself chose to remain mysterious. A thing which is easily obtained, has no value to man. Since God is far away, invisible, the world longs to receive Him, to see His grace.

The greater the attachment of a man towards him, the greater his attraction for him. A man's greatest wealth is his virtues. The value of virtues cannot be understood by men because of extreme closeness. But when one goes away, it becomes 'expensive'. Maulana Ruby's words speak volumes. I have learned so much in knowing who I am and who I am not, I have lost so much in knowing who He is and who is not.