Why do the questions of bitterness surround the expectation of happiness and peace in coexistence ?!

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- Individuals who do not have a basic understanding of the ideological separation and behavior of men and women in any matter are in conflict with each other.

It's been a long time since I've told a story, let's tell a self-written parable today. It's about the time he used to travel on foot. A father was traveling from his village to the city carrying his young son on his shoulders. After passing two or four villages along the way, the father and son sat around a village to rest. There was a big tree away from Chotra. A goat was walking in the shade of a tree. A little farther on, a monkey was sitting, and a squirrel was running behind them. Suddenly the squirrel climbed the tree and got lost in its branches. The little boy saw the scene and said, 'Now the goat will climb up and hide.' Immediately his father explained to him, "No, son, a goat cannot hide in a tree even if it wants to."

When something does not sit naturally in the mind, the child does not stay without asking a question, he asked in return, 'Why ?!' A goat not to climb a tree?

The father turned his hand on the child's head and said, "He has to climb, but he does not know how to climb."

The childish intellect generalizes anything, the little child generalizes by pointing to the monkey sitting on the ground and asks' Can't even this monkey hide ?! He doesn't even know how to climb trees ?! '

"No, son, he can climb a tree, but he doesn't want to climb, so he is sitting down," said the father, putting his son on his shoulder again and walking towards the city. The child's mind may not have thought much of it, but if we continue to think in that direction, as an adult we can be sure that not only the desire to climb a tree is useful, but also the skill and if not, it has to be cultivated. It can be cultivated if there is desire but also skill. But it is more difficult to awaken a person if he does not have the desire despite having the skills.

This is what I often say to couples when it comes to cohabitation problems and their solutions. Every couple on this earth expects love-happiness-peace-prosperity living with each other and this is the original purpose of coexistence. But the stark reality is that most couples' relationships are more or less filled with bitterness, embarrassment, neglect, distrust, or loyalty rather than love. Each of these couples should be plagued by the natural question of why bitterness, embarrassment, neglect, distrust or loyalty surround the expectation of love-happiness-peace-prosperity. And so one step further, what a trouble to get back to the original purpose of symbiosis by solving all this

Nade is ?!

There are two types of problems. One, skills and the other, desire !! Most couples do not have the skills to make cohabitation happy. Love, care and spark in a relationship do not have the skills needed to survive or grow closer. Naturally, where does this skill come from? It is not taught in the curriculum and at one time we could learn a lot from the experiences and advice of the elders, now in most cases it is not available and there is no tendency to listen or follow! Yes, we can learn from our own experiences, until sometimes coexistence is spent!

The biggest awkwardness in couples is in communication skills. The art of communicating with each other is a basic requirement for solving any problem of coexistence. Individuals who do not have communication skills are always engaged in their own defense in dealing with each other i.e. they are always becoming defensive in any matter. They are more interested in defending their own behavior than in listening to others or understanding their feelings. Because of this defensive approach, the person tends to argue instead of thinking in the direction of resolving the question and expends energy in justifying his point of view. Instead of understanding each other, these comrades are engaged in sorcery, accusation or argument and pass judgment for each other! Now tell me, where people living under one roof have the power to communicate with each other in a healthy way, the expectation of happy coexistence is not too high ?! Even if the two want a harmonious coexistence, all wisdom is in vain unless they can overcome this limitation of their own.

Individuals who do not have a basic understanding of the ideological separation and behavior of men and women in any matter are in conflict with each other. These individuals always fail to understand their partner's point of view and to respect each other's opinions or decisions.

Similarly, in any case, the ideological analysis of a man and a woman and the dealings with each other are conflicting in the coexistence of individuals who have a basic understanding that their dealings are different. These individuals always fail to understand their partner's point of view and to respect each other's opinions or decisions. In the end, they both deal with their confidence as they choose to embark on their play activities. Let's give a small example. If for some reason the photos fly out of the wife's mobile and the wife talks to the husband to share the grief of losing the photos, then the husband starts giving advice about taking backup instead of understanding his grief! In this case, to understand that the wife needs empathy and not advice, it is essential to have the understanding and acceptance that the male and female minds think differently and experience differently!

The rest of the talk about skills and desires next week ...

Purnavirama: The desire for happiness is shared in the company and it is fulfilled only when both the partners think of the happiness of the partner before their own!