As love is lost, so is friendship

- What to do to get a true friend? Finding that doesn't help

- Horizon-Bhaven Kutchi

- How many types of friends? Clap friend, plate friend, cup friend and empty friend

- Your friend against whom you can freely expose your instincts, activities, nature and perversions: Assuming that the person who committed suicide is not a true friend

G One is like a party. You invite a lot of guests, friends to the party. Got to show you some courtesy, eat-drink goes quietly. Some enjoy an all night party. Halla-gulla makes noise and enjoys dishes and drinks two-three times in the morning and says 'very fun' and says 'bye bye' to you with sleepy eyes. Some will show their seriousness and even the rich and famous people will go back to their party and enjoy their party. Some will appear after the completion of the main event of the ceremony or celebration.

Due to such a party which lasted till dawn, the chair-table of that hall has fallen like this. Plates, tissue paper, decorations, everything is scattered. You too have been feeling tired for the last few days now and some relatives are still standing beside you. These are the relatives who don't really take responsibility and don't take care of the food. Moreover, these relatives would not have even made such a statement about the hall. Yet they will work to tidy up the hall. These relatives will say to the host, "You go home and rest in peace. We will come after settling the accounts." - Simply, such relatives are called true friends.

When you create a problem, friends are not involved, but when you are surrounded and there is no support like grass sparks from anywhere, true friends like Devachakali fly away and sit on your shoulders as your sympathizers.

A friend does not just sit back and cry because of your grief, confusion, and frustration in life that 'all will be well.' After that, he does not say goodbye by saying 'God is late at home but there is no injustice' but his friend also feels that he is trying his best with his body, mind and money. He is sure that there is a friend of mine who can really rely on him when the time of crisis or drowning comes.

In trouble a person cries out to God for the last time but He is subtle. Not even sure if the shout will be answered. Only faith is hidden. The name and face of a person who is in trouble can be the only true friend in front of the eye for help. Friends, relatives or even cousins ​​can be my siblings. There are also neighbors who are very rare and whose personality can be seen to be transparent.

A doctor friend of ours has kept a photo of the deceased friend in his clinic. We have a photo of the deceased parents. The doctor friend said, 'So we have many friends in the world but this one friend was incomparable. He also taught us to live happily and developed a vision of life. He didn't teach anything, but if you join him, it will be formed. '

Another is a friend whose friend died in an accident at a young age. It usually happens that after the death of a friend, the relationship with his family quickly catches the distance. The friend, who lives in another city, kept in touch with the deceased friend's wife and children from time to time by phone and by writing letters and cards at festivals. He also maintained the feeling of warmth by saying that if there is any financial help. Once a year the deceased friend goes home to visit the family. Also attends all occasions. In this way they maintained a relationship for 30 years after the death of their late friend. Friend's children also kept an eye on their progress till they reached the age of 5-30 years. Such a friend died a few years ago. Friendship is immortal. Friendship is a duty. Salute the friendship that has remained with his family for decades even after the friend's departure.

Many say that friendship should not involve money or financial transactions. Personally, I do not agree with this.

If a friend has lost his job, lost his job in a difficult time like Corona, the hospital bill has gone up, the wedding occasion or the children's fees are in sight, then the friend has to help as much as possible. Friends should also get together and save time by raising as much money as they can afford. If the need for real help is beyond the reach of a friend or friends, they can also help the friend in disaster by contacting the friend's caste group, other help schemes. What is needed is for the friend to feel that some are with him even in times of crisis. No one is with him sincerely but with philosophy and promises.

A friend will never ask for help. You need to know that a friend is confused. In the movie 'Earth', Raj Kiran sings a song for Shabana Azmi, who is trying to stay calm from the outside despite being very stressed and suffering, and says, "If you are smiling so much, why are you hiding ..." To be like a friend.

A friend does not always need money. He is also going through depression, stress, insecurity and feelings of humiliation. He is also disappointed to have found failure. Someone has hit him with self-esteem. He is also unhappy with the selfish society that is mean and always uses it. Just, a true friend has to give him warmth when he comes. It needs to be provided with proper guidance and motivation, not to provoke it to go astray. The shock is reassuring. If possible, spend as much time as possible with each other or continue to communicate on the phone from time to time.

There is a deposit in the locker that may never need to be used, but the owner is sure that I have a deposit no matter what the circumstances. I never need the help of a friend but I have a kind of confidence that I am worried about my friend. A friend is a bearer check that can never be written off.

Jainacharya Padma Vibhushan Ratnasunder Maharaj said in a discourse that there are some applause friends who will join you in laughing jokes and clap their hands to applaud. Seen from a distance, it may seem like a close friendship, but in fact such a friend is a clapping friend. If necessary, clap your hands and go somewhere.

Some friends meet in public. Every such visit says, 'Let's meet for lunch or dinner one day. How many fun days spent together. ' This scene and dialogue is repeated every four-six months or a year at a function. These friends are completely artificial.

Some friends just enjoy one-sided fun from you. Whether it's a house party, a meal or a restaurant and merry-go-round in your pocket. One day it doesn't make sense to be a host. You woke up at home. They seem to have a different person or behavior at home. Keep a safe distance with such friends. Such friends are plate friends. Thus some friends are clap friends while some thali and a class of friends belong to pyali friends. Whether it's a drink or a party, sit down and watch a cricket match or a movie with a home delivery parcel. They come to hold the cup in their hands. As the intoxication subsides, so does the peg of their friendship.

The fourth type of friendship is empty friends after Tali friends, Thali friends, Pali friends. These are the only true friends who are just friends. Unselfish, unconditional love, it hurts you and it hurts itself. There are times when he wears out alone.

It's good to have friends who remember what he did for us at that time. Now it's our turn.

We will do the same for you. This means they are not one-sided, self-centered or thankless. The conscience knows how to pay off debts.

When a friend assumes that he will become more successful, wealthy or well-known, then he has a special responsibility to treat his other friends as if they were his previous friend and person. The Krishna-Sudama friendship is an excellent example. Sudama has to maintain a respectful friendship while maintaining her dignity.

Can you talk dirty with a friend? Can you even give up worrying about what the character will look like? Assume that he is your friend if you can reveal him with your instincts, activities, nature and perversion.

The one you can cry over with your life's failures, frustrations or confusion is your friend.

If anyone can save you from committing suicide in a very difficult time, he is your friend. Someone says why find a true friend? The answer is not to find a friend. Just as love is found, so is a friend found.

Don't think that you have become luxurious as a friend with 3000 friends or millions of followers on Facebook. Most of them are 'virtual' and will remain so.