Husband and children have work to do

One afternoon we were returning from Mumbai to Ahmedabad for a family event. My niece Shital was also with us. Then his mobile rang. Shital's 10-year-old son Tanmay was talking. Sheetal started talking to him, "Son, it will still take me 1 hour to reach home. Well, do that, you take 1 glass of water in a frying pan and put steeped rice in it. Turn on the gas and put it on top of it. Keep the gas slow .. I'll call you again in 10 minutes. Until then, your sister will also come from school. "

I teased Shital angrily, "Will such a small child turn on the gas? What are you doing

"Auntie, I'm used to it. You don't have to worry. He knows everything. I have been making kidney beans and putting them in the microwave. He will make rice with Rajmani. '' Sheetal was telling me.

I was very surprised to hear Shital speak. At the same time in my mind I was comparing him. My daughter is studying in 10th standard, but she is also scared of turning on the gas, other work is far away. While I am a business woman and a cool housewife.

My attention was drawn to her by the cold voice there, "Auntie, you know that Girish has a touring and transferable job. I have to live alone without Sassusara everywhere. When I go to a new place, I don't even get a working woman immediately, so I have taught the children to wash your own dishes when they are not working. Teaching children work only benefits them. When I get sick sometimes and Girish is on tour, these kids don't go hungry. They make dalbhat and fill their stomachs and also give me chabred.

"But cool, I didn't teach my daughter anything?" Came out of my mouth.

"Auntie, you have a joint family. If you have a problem, your mother-in-law or sister-in-law works in the kitchen, so you never have to work for your daughter, but you can imagine that tomorrow your daughter's wedding will take place in a place like mine." How much trouble will he have to endure when he doesn't live with his mother-in-law? '' Sheetal spoke.

A little colder than me inadvertently taught me something. From that day on I started teaching kitchen work not only to my daughter but also to my son. My son was doing software engineering and we were thinking of sending him to America for further studies. She would be annoyed when she had to go there and do all the work herself, so she started training with him.

Like me, we should not only live in the present, but also in the future, children and husband should be made to do a little bit of kitchen work. Many women do not work for their husbands and children even if they live in a nuclear family. She speaks proudly among her friends, "My husband would not even drink a glass of water by himself." And without her her husband and children are incomplete. Because of such thoughts, she does everything on her own even in illness. As a result, as he gets older, he suffers from a serious illness, and when he is completely bedridden, his whole house is turned upside down. When dinner comes from the hotel every day and the budget of the house is completely chaotic, Patidev gets angry and maintains the arrangement of the house in any way.

Conversely, if the husband and children help the mother on a daily basis, then the house does not become chaotic when the mother is sick or has to go somewhere. They do the same household chores in his absence and at the same time they experience how much work their mom or wife does all the chores themselves. Only a self-employed person can realize how much workload a woman has in the kitchen.

My friend Madhu brings 2 vegetables, sauces, salads to the office every day in a neatly packed manner. We were all amazed at how Madhu could do so much in the morning. One day when I asked him this question, he said, "My husband and I both get up early in the morning. We stroll along the steps for a while, then pick up the kids. The kids get ready on their own. Patidev drinks tea and keeps the ingredients of vegetables and spices.

I'll have the children's tiffin ready by then. By then the children are ready and my husband is making hot or cold milk for them. Eat fruit slices with children. When I prepare lunch, they read the paper and get ready. Then when I go to get ready they pack all the tiffins and put the tea. We have breakfast together and catch our own bus. On holidays they work out vegetables, groceries etc. while the kids help me out in the kitchen. In the evening, the whole family goes for a walk. "

I remembered that when Madhu's mother fell ill, she stayed with him in the hospital all day. When she came home tired, her daughter would make hot tea and prepare the dal. If the children were studying, sometimes she would bake bread and sometimes her husband. Working together like Madhu's family brings the family members closer to each other and the housewife does not get tired and can fulfill her other social responsibilities well.

Just as taking too much work from the same machine wears it out, so too our body wears out too much work. If all the burden of the family car is placed on one person i.e. the housewife, how long he will be able to pull the car, this should be understood by the housewife as well as other members of the family. He should run the household smoothly.

Sometimes the housewife gets stuck in the kitchen and can't even notice which direction her husband and children are going. Doesn't the husband wander around somewhere, relieved of the responsibilities of home? Or do you just not spend time drinking or playing cards with friends? The children do not waste their time chatting by inviting their friends home and feeding them delicious food prepared by the mother and you will continue to be fooled by not paying attention to them and being happy with the praise of their friends.

If the children and husband work together, they will also understand how difficult it is to work in the kitchen in the heat or in the cold. If you have taken on all the responsibilities and you suddenly have to go somewhere in the service of sister, mother, then the husband will not hesitate to tell you, 'I have left my responsibilities at home and gone out to save the responsibilities outside.'

- Nayana

How to get work from husband and children

* If the house belongs to everyone, then everyone should work together.

* Your world is also outside the kitchen.

* If you are doing a job, all the work will be organized in less time.

* For your health.

* To experience responsibilities.

* This is the demand of the time in the growing currency of nuclear families.

* To make their own and their children's future much better.

How to get the job done

* Seek help from husband in busy morning routine with love and compliment.

* Allow children to be welcomed when relatives come to the house.

* Let the children and husband make breakfast or lunch on the holiday.

* Let the children fix vegetables, fruits etc.

* Let the children make peanuts, milk shakes, cold milk etc. in the heat.

* Have the children serve the food.

* Ask all members of the household to wash their own utensils when the worker does not come.

* Have children fill empty water bottles and put them in the fridge and clean the slabs.