Anger: Anger begins with passion but ends with remorse.

- Tribute to Amrit - Acharya Vijayarajaratnasuri

- 'If you die tomorrow, die today. I'm not interested in you. ' With these harsh words, the young man became so enraged that he immediately committed suicide by going live on Facebook ....

Pa Vitra Agamgranth 'Acharagasutra has a sarcastic promise regarding Krodhadi Kashayo that' S khalu mohe s khalu mare s khalu nirae. ' As the auspicious days of Paryushanamahaparva are approaching, let us look at this word of scripture in pursuit of wrath.

The above promise of Acharanga Agam gives the first metaphor of anger as a glandular-tumor. If the tumor forms in the heart, the person will have a sudden 'heart attack' and if the tumor forms in the brain, the person will suffer from 'brain hemorrhage'. Anger is such a knot. The tumor only causes damage at the level of the body, while the tumor of anger causes dangerous damage at the physical as well as social level. The aforesaid scripture gives another analogy to anger, that is, to ignorance. If a person who is ignorant in that subject gets involved in that subject, it will only bring harm in the sum, like anger in whose life the person who has left will also bring loss in all ways.

Acharang Shastra gives the third metaphor of anger as Marani, meaning death. Just as death causes a person to experience horrible torment and detach oneself from Adi forever, so anger also causes a person to experience horrible torment and removes it from Swajnadi forever. And in the fourth parable, the scripture says that anger knows that hell is real. The next thing is to go to hell after a very angry person dies. The first is that anger creates a complex hell-like environment wherever it is.

A true incident from years ago comes to mind in the context of this last parable of the Acharangasutra. We saw for ourselves that one of the brothers was very angry and used to say in front of our sister-in-law in small and big family matters, 'I can't stand anything anymore. I'm going to die by spraying kerosene. ' The tragic result of such repeated thoughts and words was that once he sprayed kerosene on himself and got burnt! This reckless act did not result in immediate death. But in the midst of acute inflammation, he died after a long period of life and death. During that time, he himself experienced hell and made his relatives experience hell.

Everyone wants to stay away from the anger that causes such cruel damage. But very few people succeed in fulfilling that desire. In order to avoid anger, one can consider various aspects related to one's own party and party. Self-reflection means considering one's own context or what to do or not to do to avoid anger. And what I should or shouldn't do when a person is in a rage, considering the context of the party, that is, the Sami person. Today, in order to assimilate the main ideal of apology for the Paryushana Mahaparva - to get rid of anger, let us today consider some small but fruitful thoughts about the parasite, that is, the Sami person who has become very angry:

1) Do not give advice: When the pan is very hot, the water droplets on it are immediately scorched and burnt. When such a person is in a state of extreme anger, the so-called teachings seem to evaporate without bringing any result. Those moments are not at all appropriate for teaching. Because then there is no conscience left in her to understand or accept any good thing. It is only after that time has calmed down that the opportunity arises to say the benefits of teaching properly, not before. In this context, a humorous definition of the word 'shikhaman' is especially worth remembering that 'what is learned, can only give shikha-mana.'

2) Don't point out mistakes and don't reprimand: When the coincidences are normal, the psychological rule is that if we show or appreciate the wrong characteristic of a Sami person, he will be happy and if we present the true flaws of that person, If we reprimand it, it will wither a little. ' Moodless' will be done. Because everyone loves praise, not mistakes or reprimands. Even in ordinary circumstances, if this is the reality, how can a person in a state of rage show the mindset to accept the mistakes or reprimands we have made? Just can't show. The Sami person's reaction then is to defend the error and reject the rebuke. This results in increased friction. So avoid the possibility of pointing out mistakes or reprimanding.

2) Not to remind past faults: If we do a neutral self-examination of ourselves, it will be understood how many times in the conflict with a Sami person we have a tendency to handle the past things which are not related to that issue. Such as 'I know that your nature is to quarrel with everyone .. I remember exactly how you bullied me in the last incident' and so on. In fact, apart from the original point, such past allegations are far from being understood by the Sami person, but they will become more and more provocative and will turn the conversation around by making baseless counter-allegations. So stay away from this approach too.

2) Not to make bitter promises: If there is a calculation to put out the blazing fire, the only thing to do is to arrange water from somewhere and run it. Only then does the fire subside. Now, if water cannot be managed, then at least care must be taken not to run petrol on fire. If petrol is sprinkled in it, the fire will not go unchecked. The same is true of the Sami person's anger. If possible, soothe his anger with cold-sweet promises like water. If that doesn't happen, it's time to dump her and move on. If a Sami person is in a rage and provokes him with bitter promises, what is the result? So read this true incident in Mumbai's 'Gujarat Samachar' just now:

A young man who was interfering in a love affair became 'emotional' and told his girlfriend on the phone, 'If you do this, I will commit suicide.' Instead of trying to calm her down or ignore her, the young woman said, 'If you are going to die tomorrow, die today.' I'm not interested in you. ' The young man's rage was so aroused by these harsh words that he immediately committed suicide by going live on Facebook and blaming the girl for it. He died. But did the young woman go round the police station? This was the end of bitter promises.

2) Not to make disclosures: A nice sentence was read that 'Disclosures are not needed where the relationship is emotional and where the relationship is hateful or doubtful, the disclosures have no meaning.' Of course, this is a 'philosophical' statement. If we make it practical, an explanation at the right time can be considered necessary. But in moments of rage, the revelations often lose their effect. Therefore, if there is a time-coincidence, Zaza should not disclose. To disclose only by examining the opportunity at the right time.

2) To remain silent: There is a funny saying in Sanskrit that 'Maunin: Kal ho nasti.' The person who assumes the poetry of silence cannot pierce the arrow of the Sami person's rage. Balke can do the job of quelling the rage easily without any other effort. So make silence a weapon when a Sami person is in a rage. Not answering at all. Or get up and walk away. This approach will not only provoke the anger of the Sami person, but will also ease it easily. Remember that there is no bravery in facing a field of rage, only bravery in escaping or remaining silent.

One last thing: Anger may start with passion, but it ends with remorse.