confusion

- We have a happy married life. They have been married for five years and have a 17-year-old child. Lately I get a lot of headache after sex.

I am 28 years old. I have been married for three years. All three of my parents are doctors. They live outside. I, my husband and mother-in-law are the only three people living in the house. Since my womb is not yet full, my mother-in-law often quarrels with me about this, after my medical examination, the report came back normal, while in my husband's examination, 3-4 reports are not normal. After knowing this, my mother-in-law did not say anything to me, but she kept quarreling with me on some pretext. I am ready to bear all this, but I feel sad that my husband does not get treatment himself and my mother-in-law also does not tell him anything. My words do not affect them at all. What do I do?

A Girl (Vadodara)

* Since your aunt is a doctor, she might be able to convince your husband to get treatment. Try talking to them. Apart from this, in intimate moments you can also convince the husband for treatment. You kindly explain to them that you want to be a mother. For that he needs to get treatment. Now talking about the quarrelsome nature of the mother-in-law, there is only 'home to home mud stove'. Very soon one will find such a house, where mother-in-law does not feel much trouble. This includes you too, so increase your stamina a bit. Since your husband is a son of one, there is no other option for you but to keep your mother-in-law with you.

I am 21 years old and a mother of three children. I am good looking and somewhat romantic in nature. I like making friends with boys. Also, many times even young men consider me a virgin due to my appearance. I love to travel, but my husband does not take me anywhere. I am tired of them now. Since I got married against the wishes of my family, even my friends do not come to meet me. Sometimes I wish to leave my husband and children and run away and marry my favorite young man, who can give me the joy of life. Is it so?

Ek Parinita (Surat)

* You got married at a very young age. After having children, you could not control your libido. If you got married against the wishes of your family, but could not be happy with that young man, then you have failed in choosing a husband. Do not take any wrong step neglecting your household and children to fulfill your insatiable desires, otherwise it will be time to repent.

* We have a happy married life. They have been married for five years and have a 17-year-old child. Lately I get a lot of headache after sex. These pains last for two to three hours and the pains get relieved after consuming headache pills available in the market. Why does my head hurt after sex?

A Male (Borivli)

* In many cases some people get headache after intercourse. This is normal. Often such pain lasts from half an hour to the next morning. There are many reasons for headaches after sex. The reasons behind this can be psychological as well as physical. If we look at the psychological cause, there is a conflict between husband and wife, things are not happening in sex, despite explaining to the partner, his sexual behavior does not make any difference - there are many reasons for headaches. Sometimes the head hurts even when sex does not reach climax. Post-coital headaches are what we call coital hiccups in our medical parlance.

Another cause of headache is migraine. Headaches can occur even if there is a brain tumor and when hormones change.

In my opinion you should see your family doctor and please stop taking the painkillers. This problem of yours will be removed in no time. Such painkiller medication will temporarily stop the pain, but may not lead to an accurate diagnosis. In the future, if this becomes a big disease, the problem will increase. It is important to consider that painkillers also have a mild effect on the kidneys.

* My age is 27 years. I got married three years ago. I had a natural pregnancy within six months of marriage. However, at that time there was a fetus in the right tube and since the diagnosis was too late, the tube on that side had to be removed along with the fetus. After that we are trying again, but no success. Even after doing IUI (input insemination) three times, there is no pregnancy. Now I am tired of taking medicines, I am worried whether I will be able to become a mother.

A Girl (Surat)

* There are two fallopian tubes in the body. When a pregnancy remains in one of the tubes, it increases the chances of getting an infection inside. You may also have an infection left on the side of the uterus. Usually when you have a sore throat and go to the doctor, they say your tonsils are ripe. They don't say clearly whether right tonsil or left tonsil. The same is often the case with gerontologists. If there is any problem in the tube on one side, the doctor may remove it, but it remains to make sure that there is no infection in the other tube. Hormonal or genetic problems can also cause problems.

I think you have some problem with the other tube. It has an invection that is either blocked or very narrow. The entire system should be reviewed once laparoscopy is done. If necessary, the black tube can be opened with a laser.

There are many chances of pregnancy in your case so there is no need to fail.

- Anita