Why spend indiscriminately on the first Diwali of married life?

"It's the first Diwali after marriage so what happened?" Mansi's husband Gaurang seemed confused.

"You don't understand. All this must be done on the first Diwali'' Mansi said a little bewildered. "I can't spend so much," Gaurang said clearly.

"Just think, your and my friends are about to come to our house for the first time. We don't even have the same furniture there. I did not buy a new saree or jewelry. What will everyone think seeing our empty house like this?

"If those people are smart, they will understand by themselves. Right now we are not in such a position to settle everything together. It is the first Diwali of marriage, so the house is empty. It takes years to settle the whole house. I won't buy anything on installments and I won't even go to anyone for a loan.'' Gaurang said explaining it.

Gaurang and Mansi were understanding, but the same could not be said for the newlyweds living in our neighbourhood. It was his first Diwali. He spent a lot of time on this occasion. When we went to his home to wish him Diwali, we were shocked to see a pile of liquor there. I asked in surprise, "All these crackers, are there any guests coming?" He shyly said, "No, no, it's for both of us."

Not only this, he has also spent a fortune on clothes, sweets, housewares and pujapath items.

On the first Diwali of married life, the happiness of the newlyweds cannot be comprehended. There is a certain exuberance, joy and passion in them. At the same time, they have money and lack of experience, so they spend more than necessary.

Just because Diwali comes once a year does not mean spending recklessly in the name of the festival. The budget of people with limited income is scattered due to wasteful expenditure. Therefore, it is not uncommon for an atmosphere of chaos and tension to arise in the house. That is why it is not the first Diwali of your married life. You should spend wisely. In the early days after marriage, most of the men are fond of their wives. During Diwali, when they go shopping, the husband immediately buys the item that catches the wife's eye. Even the shopkeeper understands that this is a newly married couple. So they also tell him by increasing the price of the item.

Sometimes the husband also tries to cut down on such wasteful purchases when the pocket is not enough. But sometimes, he keeps silent thinking 'Wife should not think me stingy'. After all, he has to bear all the burden.

In this regard, the newly married wife has more responsibility than the husband. Especially he has to act wisely. Even if the husband brings anything at your behest, that situation should not be misused. Since you are the Lakshmi of the house, shopping should be done keeping in mind the husband's income. Most people buy new clothes on Diwali, but the newlyweds may not spend on new clothes, as they have already bought a lot of clothes for their wedding in the same year. So one of them can be selected and worn on Diwali. Even if the husband talks about getting a new saree on Diwali, the wife should explain him and lovingly refuse for the saree.

If there is sufficient crockery and utensils in the house, it should not be wasted. Don't spend unnecessarily on home decoration items and crackers. That also affects your household budget. It is better if sweets are made at home in Diwali. All of us newlyweds are short on time. So they can make good use of their spare time in decorating the house and making crops to make their husband happy. Just as homemade home decor gives a unique satisfaction, homemade sweets are also healthy and affordable. It is a wrong belief that Diwali can be celebrated well only by spending more. There is so much love and excitement in the life of the newlyweds that they don't need anything else. So celebrate Diwali with ease and spread light in your home with a loving lamp. Always keep your married life fresh by becoming Grilahakshmi in true sense.

On the first of Diwali, don't get so lost in each other that you forget friends, relatives and neighbors, feel the need to wish them Happy Diwali and New Year or send a card. Then how your life shines with the lights of love.