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- I am 21 years old. I am in love with a 21 year old girl of my caste. We are Kshatriyas. We have to get married. But is this possible since we have the same surname?

I am 21 years old. I am in love with a 21 year old girl of my caste. We are Kshatriyas. We have to get married. But is this possible since we have the same surname? Once we have foreplay. We cannot live without each other. Will our family accept this? Please give proper guidance.

A young man (Bhavnagar)

* According to my knowledge, there is no problem in marriage if the surname is the same. The gotra should not be the same for marriage and there should not be blood relation. Also find out what is the practice of your caste. Everything has been based on it. Whether your family will agree to this marriage or not depends on their opinion as well as many reasons. Hence this cannot be guaranteed. Your job is to present your wish to them and they will study all the circumstances and decide whether to accept the relationship or not.

I am 29 years old. And doing a job in which further development is not possible. Once upon a time I was an outspoken, ambitious girl and popular. But now I have become a shy recluse. Can you advise me whether I should find a good husband and get married or continue with my job.

A Sister (Mumbai)

* Understand one thing clearly that finding the right character, getting married and advancing your career are not mutually exclusive. Both are completely different from each other and you can handle both aspects easily. Many such women will be found. Those who can maintain a household well with a successful career.

First of all you have to believe in yourself. Find the root of your problem and try to solve it. Start enjoying life. If there is any problem in your job, find a new job. Instead of backing away from a problem, face it and move forward.

I am 26 years old. I am in love with one of my friends. But once heart broken now I fear the word love. I try to stay away from it. How to believe it?

A Girl (Surat)

* Keep in mind that no two people are the same. Their nature is also not the same. Happiness has nothing to do with fear and security. Courage and faith play an important part in this. So take courage and go ahead. You must know the saying, "He who dies with courage, God helps him."

-Nayana