What can be the art of finding stability between happy and sad moments?

- Guftego- Dr. Chandrakant Mehta

- They came in the morning happily as relatives, stayed till evening, took the road when night fell, returned to Navdokan, such a liar.

- Zawerchand Meghani

* What can be the art of getting stability between happiness and sadness?

* Questioner : Parita Anilkumar Rathore, Mann Sarovar Township, I.O.C. Road, Chandkheda, Ahmedabad.

We should walk with the understanding that we are not given human life with the assurance of eternal happiness or eternal sorrow. According to the philosophy of karma, a person has to suffer good results according to his karmas. Being born as a human being is the testimony that God or the Supreme Power has given you such a fortunate boon as a result of some of your good deeds.

If we have a relationship of equanimity with life instead of selfishness, we can remain steadfast even in moments of sorrow.

A simple definition of happiness is getting what we want or expect. If the thought or desire is fulfilled, the mind will be happy, the saint will be realized. Nature teaches man that as the seasons change, human life also undergoes changes of spring and autumn. In the 'Mahabharata' the centers of happiness are described as regular income, health, a wife who speaks sweet and loving words, an obedient son, and meaningful learning - these six things are pleasant for human life. Happiness depends on state of mind: If the mind is not happy, a person cannot be happy even in happiness.

Man believes that when some of his desires are fulfilled, he will feel happiness. But desires do not believe in progeny regulation. Desires cannot be enumerated. Therefore, being free from the desire to satisfy desires by limiting them is true happiness. The address of happiness is not written on an outer wall, but inscribed in golden letters on the sacred ground of the soul. So one who seeks happiness outside ends up suffering like a musk deer. If a man gives the spirit of sacrifice, dedication, service and love the highest place in his life, he can enjoy inner happiness and satisfaction. Happiness lies in how much you can give up. Giridhar Kavirai is a prophet of the art of happiness in simple words. Accordingly

"Greed is sin ka bij hai,

Ras Vyadhi Ka Bap,

Raag Kaidka Bija Hai,

Be happy."

Lord Shri Krishna, in the second chapter of Srimad Bhagavad Gita, has given the enlightenment as to why a person should be mentally happy by describing the characteristics of 'Shitaprajna'. Accordingly, on suffering one's mind is free from anxiety and on attaining happiness one is completely indifferent and whose anger, fear and anger have been destroyed. Such a man is considered to be of stable mind.

Also, a man who contemplates subjects gets attached to those subjects. From attachment arises that subjective action. And the disturbance in desire gives rise to anger. Anger leads to stupidity. Ignorance creates illusions in memory. Buddhi i.e. knowledge is destroyed due to illusion in memory and the person whose intellect is destroyed falls.

As the heart becomes happy, all the sorrows of man disappear. A man without spirit finds no peace. It means that abandoning all desires or aspirations, leaving the ego and accepting the state that God creates and being happy from within is the best way to be happy.

If there is one dominant element that makes man miserable, it is his 'I'-ness. The best way to be free from suffering is not to let the mind become a coward, suffering is not a test sent by God to test our heart and mind. Taking the exam with a smile is the way to succeed in God's test. Instead of thinking of suffering as a punishment, the mind can be freed from the act of lamentation by considering it as a blessing from God. God knows more than we know where our happiness lies. So God helps indirectly by preventing some work from happening. As stated in 'Vidur Niti' the greatest wretched man in the world is destitute. Even more miserable is the debtor. He is a man who is more miserable than both of them and is always sick. And the most miserable man is one whose wife is wicked. A wicked husband is also a curse.

A man compares his happiness and sorrows with the happiness and sorrows of others, that is why he becomes more miserable.

According to one example, seeing man repeatedly complaining about his sorrows, the creator Brahmaji announced that this morning those who want to change their destiny should prepare a box of happiness and sorrow and put it in a pile at a certain place. Among the pots collected till the evening, a man will be allowed to check the pot of happiness and sorrow according to his wish and he can take any pot he likes with him. People were reddened after hearing this. He quickly prepared the potli of his happiness and sorrows and put his potli in the pots gathered at the designated place.

In the evening, people were allowed to check the collected bags and take the potli of their choice. People began to check the collected packets honshe-honshe. Some potli had more sorrows than its own happiness and some potli had less happiness than its own happiness. In sum, people felt that happiness and sorrow in their own life is better than the happiness and sorrow of others. And people returned with their own bundles of happiness and sorrow.

So, to find stability in life between happy and sad moments, keeping the mind happy in every state, giving up attachment, controlling desires, and keeping the restraint as per Bhagavad Gita and being free from the frenzy of sense pleasures is the best way to be happy. To the extent that the sattvic qualities arise in the mind and the rajasic and tamasic qualities can be controlled, the mind of man can be truly satisfied and happy. Instead of being the master of his nature, man becomes the slave of his nature and loses his conscience, considers the satisfaction of desires as everything and therefore gets easily distracted in moments of sorrow. Even the saints, devotees, incarnated dignitaries could not remain free from the test of sufferings, taking inspiration from them to make life higher and nobler, being the protector of the sacred values ​​of human life and considering happiness and sorrow both as gifts of God, taking care to keep the life pure is to keep the mind free from suffering. is art. 'Panchamrut' contains inspiring verses of Zhaverchand Meghani. They came in the morning with happiness as relatives, stayed till evening, took the road when night fell, returned to nine shops, such a liar.