Dunbars number: Woh five ...

- Vocabulary-Paresh Vyas

- Nowadays on the internet it is said that if someone unfriends you, if your followers decrease, it means that you are developing.

Just the same relationship true,

The one who has a self-opening speech of the heart.

- Mukesh Joshi

Tagore says go alone! Is also tough. Saath joi, sangath joi. And building and maintaining a relationship is two different things. If you want to live well, you need to be with friends, relatives and acquaintances. Everyone needs development to run the country, but how many people (or people) are needed to run a man? Today's word denotes Dunbar's Number.

There is also a scripture of human relationship. How many meaningful and stable relationships can you build / maintain? The answer from 8 year old British anthropologist Robin Dunbar is: 120. This is the Dunbar number. At the end of a lot of intimate research, it has been proved that the human brain cannot handle more than 150 meaningful relationships. If it is more than that, such relationship cannot be cohesive. 'Kohisiv' means those who stick together, affectionate, united, inclined to be united. We have 3000 relationships in Facebook. O Ray! But they are not friends. Half of you don't even know. How many never like you. And you think that .. you have a wide circle of friends. O Ray! Robin Dunbar has studied Facebook. According to him, the figure of 150 is the limit. Individuals who are more than that, just the name is enough.

But today we have to talk about the dumbass number of intimate relationship. A new book by Robin Dunbar has arrived. 'Friends: Understanding the power of our most important relationship'. In an interview, he says that the number of people involved in relationship circles ranges from 1.5 to 2,000. 1.2 means a very personal, romantic relationship. Then there are the 5 relationships that you can put your head on your shoulders and cry. Let them drop everything and stand by your side in the face of your troubles. The number of the circle after that is 12, in which the top 8 is really the other 10 with which you have a party, go see a movie, have an ice cream party. Then comes the circle of 20 persons. People we invite when we celebrate a small occasion like a birthday party. And then comes the number 150. So many people who are present at the wedding or death. Usually these two occasions occur only once in a lifetime. Now why the limit of 150? Reason .. because we have limited time. Time is money. The investment of precious time should be done with understanding - Gujarati does not have to be explained like that!

Not all people are the same in nature. Some are introverts by nature. Speaks less. Such people believe in having a small number of friends, so that everyone can be given enough time. Quality Time, You See! People with extroverted talents are overconfident in relationships. And if there is a mismatch somewhere ... if not you or the signature .. the personal dunbars number of such people may be higher. And it is true that this number does not remain the same in every age. In fact, when a boy / girl falls in love, he / she takes the victim of two friends. Love is a waste of money and time! Can't give time so friend doesn't stay friend! It is also the case that the number of dunbars decreases with age. And then there are five and ... in the end only 1.5. That's all when you die. Hey then what is this uproar? !!

Dear poet Rajesh Vyas 'Miskin' writes that having a picture in a room is enough to have a good friend in life. But ... we are in favor of the Danbars issue of five. Two friends plus two loved ones out of many relatives plus one, which can be in either of these two categories. Thus a total of five. Oops! It's too much, brother! Decide who are your five? This does not mean that everyone else in your life is worthless. But these five unique individuals are your loved ones.

You must have seen the movie 'Anand'. Anand (Rajesh Khanna) suffering from incurable cancer is very fond of making friends. He slapped any stranger from behind and said why are you, Murarilal ..? He says I am not Murarilal. So who are you Saying one's own name means that Anand tells him that let's go, this excuse has become our friendship. Once in the same way one person (Johnny Walker) is slapped and asks how are you Murarilal .. then two people get involved. Dr. Bhaskar calls Banerjee (Amitabh Bachchan) and introduces him to Anand Murarilal. Murarilal tells him that he and Jaichand were studying together. Dr. Bhaskar says this is not Jaichand.

So he says that I am not Murarilal, I am Isabhai Suratwala. Anand was originally fond of making countless friends. Dunbars numberki aisi taisi! But I don't think you need to have a lot of friends to be happy. Muralilalpana looks good in the film. Jeff Bezos from Amazon says that the team should be small enough to fill everyone's stomach with two pizzas. This pizza rule is also true for personal relationships. Yes, we can call it the rule of 200 grams of fafdajalebi. Mariz Saheb also says the same thing only I write ghazals for him 'Mariz', these four five who understand my wonder. That's the intimate Danbars number ... Nowadays on the internet it is said that if someone unfriends you, if your followers decrease, it means that you are developing. Speak up!

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'He who has many friends has no friends.' -Greek philosopher Aristotle (6-9 BC)