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- I am in love with a married man. He wants to marry me but is not ready to leave his wife and children. I don't understand what to do.

I am 45 years old. My children are studying in college and husband is working. Our financial condition is good. But for the past few months I have been feeling constant restlessness. If someone speaks in anger or gets upset and doesn't listen to me, I cry for hours. I feel fear that everyone will go away from me and because of that I cry. What to do to overcome myself?

A Woman (Jamnagar)

* You have suffered from depression. Many women go through a 'midlife crisis' between the ages of 30 and 50. Your symptoms may also be due to menopause. After treatment you can be completely cured. You need counseling not medication so consult a specialist psychiatrist.

I am in love with a married man. He wants to marry me but is not ready to leave his wife and children. I don't understand what to do. On the one hand I cannot live without her and on the other hand I am not ready to risk my future by getting married under these circumstances. Please give proper guidance.

A Girl (Gujarat)

* If you think practically, you will not need any guidance. Your future is dark in this regard. Marriage without divorcing the wife is not sanctioned by law and if he divorces his wife and marries you, what is the guarantee that he will not get tired of you and find another partner in future. So the best option is to leave him and move on with your life and let him move on with his life. You still have your whole life to find a good partner and get married.

My six-and-a-half-year-old daughter has a thumb-sucking habit. We have tried many times to get rid of this habit but without success. So what do we do for this?

A Woman (Nandarbar)

* Psychological reasons such as fatigue, boredom or stress play a role in this habit for up to two years. Therefore, taking care to put the child to bed early, to feed him when he feels hungry, and to keep him busy in favorite activities can break this habit so that the child does not get too tired. But if this habit continues even for three to five years, understand that behind it he needs emotional security. Try to tell your daughter what she is afraid of. If this does not succeed, monitor his activities without his knowledge, this may give you a clue. Find out whether reasons like fatigue, loneliness, anger, fear are responsible for this or not. Also, any incident or situation in the house is not responsible for this. Find that reason too. Treat it with love rather than marrying it.

My husband used to love me a lot. But for the past few months they have been opposing my every word and neglecting me. Even if I expect love from them, they scold me. This worries me a lot. Please give proper advice.

A Sister (Mumbai)

* First of all you need to know what is the reason for this sudden change in their behavior? Do they have an enlarged prostate gland? Do they have any tension in the office? It is possible that some of their expectations are not met. Husband and wife often scold each other due to which the atmosphere in the house deteriorates. Such a stage comes in married life. No need to worry about it. Create an atmosphere like before to be loved by them and discuss this openly with them. Gradually everything will be fine.

- Naina