Depression is... .

- Man has to take care of his mind like a skilled gardener takes care of a garden of flowers

Dhritarashtra's Putramoh had turned a blind eye to every ungodly activity of the genocidal Duryodhana since childhood. The result was that it was the turn of the Pandavas to fight. One is that Krishna himself is present in the field on the side of the Pandavas over the superior, well-armed, strong five Pandavas... and where Krishna is, victory is certain. (Yat: Krishnastato Jai) So will his entire lineage be wiped out? Nothing left? - At this thought Dhritarashtra turned pale with a deep sense of despair. He was restlessly shifting sides while the whole of Hastinapur was blissfully asleep. Sleep was forbidden. He needed someone to pour out his heart. At midnight he called Vidura. Vidura came and consoled Dhritarashtra. The dejected king was calmly told policy-related things. That Niti-Enlightenment is still famous in the name of Vidura Niti in Udyog Parva of Mahabharata.

But a depressed person needs warmth that cools the heart, not wise words. In every man's heart lies a secret sorrow that the world does not know. It is this hidden pain that creates depression. Depression never comes suddenly. The wrong decisions taken in life accumulate and appear at the door of the mind in the form of nostalgia. The brain chemistry of depression is not well understood. Because there are many reasons like money, reputation, love, debt, habits, anger, laws, exams, rejection, death, tension in relationships... even one of these reasons can turn the precious moments of life into despair. When there is a doubt for a loved one, the mind burns for no reason. It feels like something is burning inside.

Even a bird does not build a nest on a branch that is bent, but a greedy man takes such a risk in temptation and gets depression from the front. In the sea of ​​life, a boat full of depression or longing cannot cross without the movements of understanding. Courage is needed.

England was defeated in the first Test of the Ashes in 2013. Then a player named Jonathan Trott was so mentally broken that he left the field. Sachin Tendulkar once admitted that he used to get frustrated when a decision went against him or a match was lost badly. And would go to the dressing room and cry with anger at himself. Thus he would shed tears and become relaxed. Famous author Sidney Sheldon suffered from suicidal thoughts in depression. His father came to know about this. One evening both went for a walk. His father said - (our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall) Our glory is not in falling, but in falling and standing up again and Sidney let out a sigh of frustration.

In the Bofors case, Amitabh was so humiliated by people's allegations that he avoided talking to anyone even on the phone. Seeing his despondency, the father sat him down and asked him a question - "Have you done anything wrong? If yes, then admit it. And if no, stop torturing yourself and prove yourself innocent." Father Harivanshrai rescued his depressed son from depression by giving him courage. It is better to harness the power within and break free than to suffer helplessly in depression.

A man has to take care of his mind like a skilled gardener takes care of a garden of flowers. The mind is like a flower bud. Even if the bag is empty, it will run. But it does not contain any kind of waste. Waiting to insult someone by saving the sting of insult is only sad! Can you get rid of revenge by insulting insult? No, ...that's not how math works in relationships.

If we get into the habit of suspecting or finding faults in others, we will be deprived of that person's good qualities, good intentions or good thoughts. It is necessary to control the mind before the pressure of wrong thoughts can lead to depression. If we do not wear the guard of conscience, our personality will be robbed before our very eyes. Breaking a good relationship due to depression is like breaking a wall at the sight of termites. If a loved one talks to us emotionally despite our rude behavior, then such a pure relationship is not lost. Talk to them and get rid of sadness.

Essenes, a sect of Christians, talk about moments of joy. When moments of joy come in life, keep them in the safe deposit vault of the mind. And sometimes when depression hits, take it out of the vault and relive those moments in the present. Because avoiding pain is the art of living. (The art of life is the avoidance of pain).

- Surendra Shah