Collaborative review.

- My Nananda is a 26 year old normal looking girl. My in-laws are not worried about her marriage. We talked about her marriage in many places but no one found fault and let the talk go ahead!

I am a 42 year old father of two teenage sons. My grandparents raised me after my parents divorced. After the divorce, the mother went to her pier. Father married his sister and made her a family. Today they occupy our house and we live in a rented house.

I have been taking mother to me after marriage. But she could not adjust with us and left again. My father is angry with me because of this. They say, I am not their son. Ma on the other hand accuses me of going to my father. Thus I have been deprived of the love of my parents since my childhood. Was it my fault after all?

A brother (Vadodara)

* Due to mutual differences, the parents have separated and started living according to their own wishes. But it is the children who suffer the most due to the separation of the two. Children are deprived of their parents' love. You too have to suffer from this lack. But you should be satisfied that you are getting the support of your grandparents, who have taken care of you very well.

It is futile to mourn for what you have not got. You have a green family with wife and children. You should be happy with them and you should give your children all the happiness that you have been deprived of.

I am 25 years married and mother of two and half year old son. Both mother-in-law and father-in-law are retired from their jobs. I was working before the birth of my son, so I could not know the mother-in-law's nature. But for the last three years I have been at home. Along with taking care of my son, I also help them in household chores. However, they always have complaints about me. Every time he praises his married daughter.

I don't answer but mumble in my mind. When I ask my husband for a job again, he says who will take care of the son? The mother-in-law cannot handle it. My pier is nearby and my son has more affection with my parents. But the mother-in-law will not give leave to keep the son even in my pier. What do I do?

A Woman (Surat)

* After some time when your son starts going to school, you can hire a maid to take care of him. Your mother-in-law will not mind that. You will be able to go back to work after the arrangement of the son.

Mari Nanand is a 26 year old normal looking girl. My in-laws are not worried about her marriage. We talked about her marriage in many places but no one found fault and let the talk go ahead! Sometimes they find faults in the boy's appearance and sometimes they find faults in his home and family. If this continues then it will not be possible to marry Nanand, what should we do?

A Woman (Valsad)

* Convincing (one's parents-in-law) that their daughter is too old, through an elder of the house or some friend or relative. If they continue to see such defects in boys, their daughter will be past marriageable age. They will not find something to their liking in every idol. A compromise has to be made somewhere.

I am a 45 year old widow. It has been ten years since the death of her husband. I have raised two children with great difficulty. The son has decided to marry the girl of his choice. I have no objection to son's choice. When I went to my brother about the marriage issue, he told me that I had given my children too much leeway.

Do boys have any sense of right and wrong? Marriage is not a boy's game. One day I will regret my decision. I am scared to hear their words. Somewhere their words may not be true. What should I do?

A Widow (Bhavnagar)

* Your son is intelligent. He has chosen a partner for himself and if you like him too, don't hurt your heart by giving importance to what people say. Life belongs to boys so their likes and dislikes matter the most.

- Naina