Modern-day 'moms' have been shining a light on their mothers-in-law

- We people have instilled in our minds the misconception that mother-in-law relations are always quarrelsome, because of which these relations have become useless. Why do we forget that there have been characters like Kunti-Draupadi and Kaushalya-Sita in history. Who can be considered as an ideal mother-in-law.

Times are changing fast. In today's modern day of TV serials, the equation of mother-in-law relationship is changing. Now the mother-in-law wearing a sari does not mind walking around the house wearing a gown or a Punjabi dress or just a skirt blouse. Today, for the first time, perhaps the day has come when it is the turn of educated young women of the 150's or 180's to play the role of mother-in-law. Being educated, these women are aware of fashion, beauty and every big event happening in the world. The most important thing is that these women, a woman is aware of how important her self-esteem is. And that is why he is now taking good care of his wife!

Also, since these women are educated and know the importance of jobs and careers, they do not have much difficulty in understanding Wahu's point of view in this regard. She herself does not support some of the old and orthodox beliefs prevailing in the society, so if her daughter-in-law does not follow these old customs, she will not be saddened. In many cases, the mother-in-law herself is seen telling Wahu to ignore certain old beliefs.

Alaga Deshpande, who has been with Ion Exchange, India's number one water purification company, for three years, says many Maharashtrian households have a rule that housewives must always wear a sari at home. This rule is considered mandatory, especially for brides living in joint families. After working all day and arriving home at seven or eight in the evening, it is only natural that I would get bored of wearing a sari. I am very happy to say that my mother-in-law found out that I prefer to wear a gown instead of a sari when I come home tired, so she walked in front and asked me to wear a gown. He also allowed me to wear pants when I went out with my husband on holidays. This may be small, but I respect my mother-in-law's generosity and openness. As a result, a bridge of understanding was easily built between us going forward.

It is a real pleasure to hear these words from the mouth of a woman of 21st century society. At the same time, the thought comes to mind that where is today's age and where is the age of our grandparents six-seven decades ago? In those days, in the presence of mother-in-law or brother-in-law, the wife could not even talk to her husband. Poor Wahu spends all day grinding, cooking, washing clothes, making dishes. Some of Mumbai's most famous women are now considered successful mothers-in-law. Together with Pervez Agarwal, the director of a business center, and his wife, he runs his company's business very sensibly and successfully. Pervez Agarwal says that we both never interfere in each other's work in any way, we always work in a spirit of mutual cooperation. In moments of frustration we give each other excitement and warmth.

Sabira Merchant, who became famous for her skillful management of a TV program called What's the Good Word, lives in a joint family. Every woman must have enough freedom. He insists that Sabira plays the role of a successful mother-in-law in her own home. When he is free from TV-stage programs, he actively contributes to the care of his grandchildren and household chores.

Expressing her views in this regard, the Commissioner of Income Tax, Mrs. Surinder Pal Kaur said, "I firmly believe that if you want everlasting moments of happiness and joy in your family, you should consider your daughter-in-law instead of your daughter-in-law." Suppose your daughter-in-law gets married and goes to her father-in-law. Would you like it if her mother-in-law behaves rudely with your darling daughter? Therefore, if you take special care to consider your daughter-in-law as a daughter and keep her happy forever, it is possible that your daughter will also get the same love from her father-in-law. In fact, in our society, if every mother-in-law pledges to keep her daughter-in-law as a daughter, there will never be any rift in the mother-in-law relationship.

One thing every mother-in-law should always remember is that in the past she was also a bride. Also, every bride should never forget that her mother-in-law is the same as her mother. Of course, it is important for both parties to work hard to ensure that the mother-in-law's relationship is always fragrant. One thing every bride should always keep in mind is that her mother-in-law has the same rights as her husband.

After studying the successful relationships between in-laws in our contemporary society, some of the stories and issues that have come to light are something that every young lady understands.

- Insult your widow (parents of the bride) - never. If you maintain their due respect on every occasion, the need for you will be in the heart of your bride.

- '' We are boys, so we don't want to make different demands on the girl by saying that we want a girl and a girl.

- Allow your son and daughter-in-law to live their lives their way. If they want to live in a separate house, don't insist on keeping them in a joint family with you because if they live together in the same house, there will be a possibility of someone having a headache every day.

- How is your bride? What is his nature You decide your own way. For this, one should not be drawn into anyone's words and create any kind of prejudice.

- Take special care that the new bride does not feel like a stranger in your home, help her enough to successfully fulfill the role of a responsible bride in the new environment by marrying a virgin and a different girl. Lovingly explain to him the working methods of your home and some special things so that he feels the intimacy and warm atmosphere in the new family.

- Be sure to suggest some things that are necessary to take care of the home and the newborn baby skillfully but never impose your thoughts on him. Giving the daughter-in-law a little freedom in the matter of household chores will increase her work force.

- If your son is in love and your bride is really as good as you expect, you should feel free to appreciate your son's choice. Doing so will increase your daughter-in-law's enthusiasm for household chores.

- Introduce your wife to all your close family members yourself. Also, have fun with your family at least once a month. Talk openly about different aspects of the family.

- You have to settle down as a member of a family that has settled down according to the tradition of the years. So just like sugar is mixed in milk, you should also try to mix with everyone in this new house.

- If you want to make your marriage happy, always keep your behavior loving and open. Also, always keep a smiling face, as the saying goes, This will create a happy atmosphere in your home forever. Also, don't forget to always greet your husband with a smile when he returns home in the evening tired from work.

- Never show boredom of working at home. Always remember the saying 'Seva karva meva male' and always be friendly with all the family members of the father-in-law's party.

- Even if you are modern, remember to wear traditional clothes and jewelry on home occasions. Never wear clothes that defy the dignity of the home in the name of modern dress. Also, communicate with everyone on every occasion of the in-laws.

- If there is a different religion in your in-laws 'party and their religious practice is different from your peers' party, you should never make fun of it and actively participate in every religious event in the house.

- When you come home in the evening tired from work, do not get bored by hearing complaints from your husband all day long. Also, be careful not to disturb the peace of the home by telling your husband small things about your mother-in-law.

In fact, we people have instilled in our minds the misconception that mother-in-law relationships are always quarrelsome, which is why these relationships have become unhealthy. Why do we forget that there have been characters like Kunti-Draupadi and Kaushalya-Sita in history. Who can be considered as an ideal mother-in-law. There was always a strong bridge of affection and trust between them. If this was possible in ancient times, today is the time for it. In today's modern world, both mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law can run their home business very successfully if they understand a little bit. Moreover, if the mother-in-law succeeds in keeping their relationship sweet forever, the happiest will be the bride's beloved groom (i.e. Sasuji's darling son). All it takes is determination and a deep understanding.

- Glacier