What legacy is it that parents need to give to today's children?

- Guftego - Dr. Chandrakant Mehta

- Don't make your child your 'carbon copy' or xerox in business, occupation or job. Inheriting the spirit of living for the country, not for livelihood, is the only true way to raise children.

* What legacy is it that parents need to give to today's children?

* D.K. Mandvia, Station Road, Porbandar (Saurashtra)

The meaning of santan here should be taken to mean both son and daughter. It is believed that God sends the child to this earth as the inheritor of the sacraments so that whatever good qualities the parents have, may be maintained from generation to generation.

It is necessary to have love and affection for the child, but to be a silent witness of the child's behavior when the child is a child is not child love! Being a parent and being responsible is the key to successful motherhood. Unscrupulous pampering is the worst form of child rearing. Raising a child should be considered as penance. For that, the life of the parents must be holy, pure, free from misconduct and virtuous.

Growing up in a gentle society is the fruit of parental warmth. Parents should prepare themselves before the child is formed. Exemplary ideals such as restraint, tolerance, lack of hatred, diligence, dishonesty, humility, respect for elders, sense of service and character should be instilled in him from home and school. A child's mind is like a blank slate. True parents are anxious about what to write. Being a good parent requires vision, not degree. It is a kind of defeat to fall in love with a child to satisfy his every demand. If true respect for you has developed in the child's mind, do not neglect your affection instead of your fear and dread. Be a child's best friend and it will be yours. Instead of giving the child a legacy of wealth and self-indulgence, the best citizenship can be inherited from the parents if humanity, patriotism and service and philanthropy are inherited from the parents. Parents withdraw money for their children Not so.

When a child becomes a young man or woman, the responsibility of the parents increases. The young man has an independent personality. Her awareness of self-esteem and self-respect has increased. He has an unquenchable hunger for freedom. Conservatism does not like it. Khamoshi doesn't like it. He considers tolerance to be secondary and obstinacy or stubbornness to be everything. Bonding is considered a punishment. It does not embrace obedience and preaching. He has a desire to like and catch the body. It has a strong aura of ruda-rupala appearance. It becomes the antithesis of rock-talk. Adolescence has both passion and anger. Josh is the driving force behind his life and considers Hosh to be the antithesis of progress. Assuming that he has the right to make mistakes, he does not hesitate to do dangerous experiments. The young man expresses intense rage when the situation around him is unfavorable. That is why restraint and timely in Anna. Cultivating tolerance is essential. The youth are in a hurry to get what they want quickly. Educational institutions make it career-oriented, not life-oriented, so young people become educated, but 'inner' education is left aside. Ravi Shankar Maharaj, while conveying the message of debt repayment to the society and the country to the youth, says: Today, those who study more take more from the society. If he becomes a doctor, he will charge a big fee. If he becomes a lawyer, he will also charge a large fee. How will it benefit the society? Only sacrifice, dedication, compassion and humanity can make a business proud. The young should become thoughtful, and every effort should be made to eradicate superstitions, superstitions and exploitation. Inactivity and self-centeredness are burdensome for a young man or woman who is a burden to society.

In 'Shrestha-Manav', Swami Satya Mitrananda Giriji says that there is no humility in the life of a young man today, so there is no vision of character anywhere. And that is why the energies of the youth, instead of being creative, get involved in the activity of sabotage-induced sabotage. '' An idea came to the mind of mother Kaushalya that my Ram-Lakshman is Sukumar. How could they have killed such a terrifying Ravana? When he asked Rama about this, instead of praising his own strength, he said: "Mother, the grace of our revered Gurudev Vashishtaji and the power to kill Ashish to Pratap Ravana came to us. What is the power of the rest of us? ”Only such humility and humility can save youth.

That is why childhood is the best 'field' for sowing the best sacraments and character, from which the 'mounds' can emanate from the 'particle'. Rabindranath Tagore may have said in an optimistic tone that every child is born into this world with the message that God is not yet disappointed with human beings. Parents should believe that a child is not only the property of a home or family, but also the property of human society. Gandhiji said that I have learned the lesson of truth and non-violence from children. Being a gentle and courteous, calm and thoughtful parent is the perfect gift to give a child every birthday.

Parents should pass on five important things to their children. 1. The training to think with a faithful independent mind. . Self control The spirit of continuous service devotion સેવા and the vision of understanding events from a fair and uncomplicated point of view. Teaching of character, fearlessness and being bright from within.

Parents should give the sacraments of self-reliance and masculinity, not paralysis. Youth will be ruined if money laundering and addictive spending do not develop. Thrift is completely excluded from today's life - even from the life of parents. If there is no water in the well, where will the water come from? Life becomes meaningful only if the child receives satisfaction and moral education from the parents. But one thing is necessary. Don’t impose your thoughts on the offspring. Don't try to make them like you. Don't make your own 'carbon copy' or xerox in your business, occupation or job. Only the sacraments that make them happy to create a new world full of humanity can be life constructive for them. Inheriting the spirit that children live for the country, not for livelihood, is the only true way to raise children.