Only those who have lost can understand what it means to lose a spouse

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- Even if it is natural for your spouse to suddenly stutter and stand still on the screen, it is important to accept the reality and return to the routine of life as soon as possible.

"Sir, you may not remember, but I met you once twenty years ago," said a brother in his mid-forties. Before I could say I don't remember, he tried to remind me of the expression on my face, 'I attended your workshop for newlyweds organized by a club many years ago.' I was reminded of that event. But it is natural that the brother does not remember, and did not come!

But, it didn't matter to me whether he remembered it or not, he just had to quote one of the things I did in that workshop. 'You said in the workshop that every couple should develop the mindset of living without each other for years to come. One should learn to enjoy certain moments, leisure time, occasions etc. even without a partner. At that time we, my wife and I did not like this talk of yours at all! But that's what brought me to you today. '

Naturally, at that time they don't like me at all because such a bitter reality of life is swallowed up by a newly-married couple ?! A'y back in youth !! But look at the curvature of the ritual, in the second wave of Kovid, this brother lost his wife and today the emptiness caused by the sudden absence of his wife is putting a brake on his life! The loneliness in the mind is so deep that nothing is understood! Today, thoughts of how life will go without a spouse are constantly making the mind panic.

'Sir, I can't believe we were both hospitalized together. Actually, he told her to stay at home and treat her, but she stubbornly joined me, to support me and to be with me forever ... 'Dumo could not finish the sentence as it filled up. He is the only witness to the loneliness and sadness of those who lost their mates during the epidemic. Families give comfort, comfort, support for a while, but the emptiness of the lost community is filled a little ?! It is constantly hovering around and taking in more solitude.

Is losing a spouse something that only the one who has lost can feel, if the rest understands anything beyond empathy! It may be different for the comrades who did not get along but here I am talking about the comrades who live healthy coexistence. Losing a spouse means the sudden disappearance of the sharing button from the wall of life, life goes on but the person closest to you to share your personal moments merges into infinity! This is the experience of suddenly falling alone even in the midst of a crowd or a fair of celebrities. The departure of a spouse changes the whole routine, the whole life and the whole world.

Of course, how much and how much will change depends on a number of factors. Many factors mainly play a role in your personality, maturity, responsibilities, your inner strength, relationship with your spouse, family-social support, etc. With the departure of a spouse, many spouses lose their identity and feel that they have lost the purpose of life in spite of other responsibilities! Dreams and plans for the future, sitting together, the whole personality changes.

Many suffer from gilt for a variety of reasons, while many suffer from insecurity-loneliness and overall depression. The panacea for this insecurity, loneliness and frustration is to accept the reality and return to the routine of life as soon as possible, even if it goes hand in hand with the memory and the activity. Keep it up! Remember, time can heal a wound, even if the place of the lost spouse in the memory remains intact but at the same time life will continue to thrive, time will surely do the job.

In this way we are losing a lot in life and to be honest, losing anything is always painful. This intellectual game of the mind does not seem to work, here the bitter reality is not released without accepting it in its true sense! Assume that even if every spouse has to live and die together, where is that possible in most cases ?! Somewhere you have to die accidentally and somewhere you have to commit suicide, except for these two situations, it is rare for a husband and wife to die together.

That is, every couple has to cultivate an acceptance or understanding in the background of the mind at every stage of coexistence, even if it seems bitter, timeless, that one of the two will go first and the other will have to manage behind. Those who have this understanding in their minds automatically understand the value of the present association and are consciously engaged in strengthening their marriage. Otherwise, the epidemic will not shake you until the symbiosis is mechanized and the partner is taken for granted!

Punctuation:

The pain of an unexpected and suddenly released companion is many times more excruciating!