‘Gilt’ - Guilt is a ladder to the top of depression

- Vedana-Samvedana- Mrigesh Vaishnav

- If you constantly criticize yourself and feel guilty, frustration will never leave you. Depression stays with a self-righteous person like a shadow.

Around me you will see a number of people who are not lacking in anything, they are not in the mood even though happiness and prosperity are all around. Are such people going to put a question mark or a surprise mark for you ?!

In our country, three and a half to four crore men and 20 million women struggle against depression every year.

After hours of conversations with hundreds of depressed patients, I have come to the conclusion that what you are today is exactly what you wanted it to be!

Meaning you feel helpless to feel frustrated. Only with your consent do you feel frustrated.

I do not want to escape the responsibility of my treatment by putting the responsibility of depression on you. But I want to discuss how you can alleviate your depression.

I don't want to say that the biological depression caused by brain changes here can be cured by your efforts alone without medicines but I want to explain to those who are suffering from mild attacks of depression or those whose depression has become permanent how to fight depression.

There are three main reasons why anyone should feel frustrated.

1. The person is constantly criticizing himself.

. Compassion for oneself.

. Cultivate compassion for others.

The first reason will be discussed here.

Every year, 20 million depressed patients worldwide are asked if they criticize themselves. Do you constantly hate yourself for some of your behavioral actions?

Almost everyone answered "yes" to this question.

Anyone talks the most to himself. This is like listening to a conversation. Because in this the person is constantly criticizing himself. Hate yourself.

You will understand my point from the following examples.

If you are a mother and your children do not have good habits, are naughty, are poor in learning, then by criticizing and hating yourself, you believe that you have not been able to give proper motherhood to your children and your crooked children have matured like this?

You are honest in business, but your business is not doing as well as it should. Do you criticize yourself for that?

You are a student Your parents have put a lot of effort into making your academic career brighter. Even though he has paid a lot of money to get you the best tuition or coaching class, you cannot get good marks. So you hate yourself?

There are countless instances in which frustrated patients constantly criticize, hate, and have feelings of guilt or guilt.

Nikesh also hates himself for constantly feeling guilty for the death of his parents.

Nikesh was so happy with the money that he immediately booked a flat. She wanted her parents' past life to go to a better location and a flat with a neighborhood than a dilapidated rented house. She also wanted her children to have a chance at a good school and a good locality.

Nikesh booked a flat and took a loan of sixty lakh rupees and collected about the same amount of black money and gave it to the builder. Possession was to be met in about a month so he was very happy.

In a short period of time, his work became difficult due to the huge financial burden and the downturn in the business during the Corona period. He took risks and traveled to meet the need.

Within a fortnight of booking the flat, his parents, wife, children and himself died. The parents were hospitalized and died in just four days.

Nikesh began to feel guilty by uttering the following statements hating himself.

1. The mistake that can easily get your claim denied is to fail.

. Maybe I can never forgive myself because in the process of making money I became a super spreader of the house.

. The negligence is mine. No one in the house would have had a corona if I had taken enough care.

. If I had bought the Ready Possession Flat a little more than a couple of years ago on time, I wouldn't have seen these days.

Nikesh, who was quarantined in the isolation ward in Corona, continued to feel hateful guilt in this way.

On the one hand, Nikesh suffered from depression due to the effect on Corona's brain and the guilt of her parents' untimely death. He began to fear that if I put the burden of such a large loan on the children and died tomorrow, what would happen?

Just during the quarantine period, he felt guilty and called the builder and canceled the deal.

Gradually he recovered and began to think in his mind that what was to happen or happened. In the memory of the parents, I will finally keep the flat for the family. Just decided that and went to the builder. The builder said the deal has been canceled. There was no documentation between us. So I sold the flat to another person. People in Corona are rapidly leaving the old society and moving to new ones. I have received four lakhs more from your flat.

Nikesh got the money back, not the flat. At the same time he began to tell himself

"I am just as stupid. Why did you cancel the deal without taking it back? "

"As a father, I am a complete failure."

"Even as a husband, I'm useless."

"I always do injustice to my family by making hasty and thoughtless decisions."

Just because of all these statements, Nikesh's frustration intensified. He decided that "such a failed person has no right to live."

I always urge all patients with depression that if they do not feel guilty then their illness will go away soon. The simple solution is to admit your mistake and evaluate your decisions and behaviors in a calm and healthy manner. Be careful that this does not happen again in the future.

Neurograph: - In addition to external factors and chemical changes in the brain, you also have the consent to feel frustrated.