Why does the mind always think of what it is not?

- Yours and mine: Hansal Bhachech

- Marketing, advertising professionals, businesses, etc. are working day and night. These people keep reminding you in a new way that what is lacking in your life and moreover, they are also creating new shortcomings, you keep running!

- The mind thinks of all the other women except the wife, does not pay attention to what they have and constantly follows what is in Facebook or WhatsApp! But this is not something to worry about, nature has done justice to all, there are many others who are paying attention to what you are not paying attention to.

I was looking for a book in my library closet when I came across a college paper. In the age of mobiles, the existence of such papers is almost extinct. These papers have now been upgraded to mobile notes. Not only has the facility to write and save it increased, but it is also a pleasure to read the text of the paper that we have stored in our hands. In that paper I self. Manoj Khanderia's ghazal 'Pakdo Kalamne ...' was written. The ghazal seemed wonderful at the same time and may have been written on paper, but today, after spending more than thirty years in the field of psychiatry, it seemed many times more ironic and wonderful! Even in this, the secret of this one share is understood more than working with the mind.

"Where there has been a longing to reach for years, the mind turns back as soon as it reaches" "What a wonderful thing ?! A terrific observation of the characteristics of the human mind! Achievement makes us dull rather than satisfied. The longing we run for turns into dullness as soon as we reach our destination. In the zeal to fulfill the desires that we were blindfolded, all the zeal vanishes as soon as it is fulfilled! This is the nature of the mind, as long as there is lack, there is only interest, as it is acquired or acquired, then the lack ends and at the same time the interest also ends! The mind contemplates the lack, longs for it, but with that, the contemplation ends, the longing ends and the cycle of new lack continues! Don't even think or meditate on what you have or what is available and run after what you don't have! Enjoy catching a bus, a new race after getting caught! Marketing, advertising professionals, businesses, etc. are working day and night to keep your race going. These people keep reminding you in a new way that what is lacking in your life and moreover, they are also creating new shortcomings, you keep running! We are all more or less engaged in this cycle of life.

The mind contemplates lack and remains engaged in it, even in thoughts, behavior and practice! The tongue that never notices thirty-two teeth, one tooth floats on the empty space, the other thirty-one is still ignored! Ignoring the heaps of greetings received on the anniversary, the mind contemplates the greetings not sent by a single person. Ignoring or 'forgetting' a person is many times more painful than remembering, taking time, sending greetings and soaking their love. Instead of counting the blessings, the mind is tormented by the thought of lack, like a bull tied to a peg and circling behind it. To give a mild example, the mind thinks of all the other women except the wife, does not pay attention to what they have and constantly follows what is in Facebook or WhatsApp! But this is not something to worry about, nature has done justice to all, there are many others who are paying attention to what you are not paying attention to:)

I simply meant that it is difficult to keep a happy mind constantly contemplating scarcity. The happiness of the mind that is happy through the fulfillment of desires does not last long, the new lack keeps it running. So how to be constantly happy ?! One of the first cognitive sciences I can say is my understanding of being constantly happy

It is necessary to talk about the principle, it is called 'Hadonic Treadmill' or 'Hadonic Adaptation' - the tendency of the mind to chase after one happiness after another. The mind is caught up in the contemplation of lack to get new happiness back. The joy of winning the ten crore lottery lasts a little longer in life ?! After all, our mind goes back to its original place, doesn't it ?! Success or prosperity facilitates, gives lifestyle but does not increase happiness or satisfaction. In other words, we have been running all our lives but we have not reached anywhere, we are just running on a 'treadmill machine'! The 'Hadonic Treadmill' applies not only to happiness, but also to feelings of sorrow or grief. In short, the mind returns to its original position over time, enjoying the joys or sorrows of accomplishments in life.

Now how to stop the thought of lack of millions of questions ?! How to keep the mind experiencing more happiness by preventing it from returning to its original level ?! How to switch off treadmill? !! It is easy to understand that the pursuit of desires or achievements makes life interesting and makes the mind experience diversity with new challenges but fails to keep the level of happiness high. If life becomes interesting only through these races and challenges then race is necessary but at the same time one has to cultivate the awareness that happiness is not the destination of this race. Happiness comes not from wish fulfillment, achievement or success but from understanding and digesting its meaning and purpose. Lack will not stop because it is the natural nature of the mind, it is necessary for life to be interesting but if the purpose and meaning of your race is clear in your mind then happiness will remain as satisfaction. The speed of 'treadmill' will decrease, the interest in running will decrease, the contemplation of purpose and meaning will increase instead of the thought of lack, just from here it will start happily. The thing that we can run or wait for without it is the system of giving us immediate means 'Buy Now, Pay Letter'!