Wife says 'Mavadio', mother says Vahughelo?

- A man who is a victim of quarrels between mother and wife

- Better a poor horse than no horse at all. My mom always says that a man who makes his mother happy also takes good care of his wife.

- Usually the mother is fifty-five years old by the time the son gets married. He has given up his happiness and desires to raise his son for the rest of his life.

Six months after the marriage, Sujata met her friend Megha. They both deal with their confidence as they choose to embark on their play activities. Megha asked Sujata about the leader's marriage. Megha knew that Sujata was married in a very happy house. Her husband is an officer in the bank. Moto has a flat, his home with laptops, mobiles, cars, all the luxurious equipment. Sujata is survived by her husband and mother-in-law.

Sujata said, "My mother-in-law is perfect. It makes good parathas and pickles. Keeps the house absolutely clean. And every morning he sits in the worship room and worships the Lord. Megha was happy to hear him say this and said, "God, give everyone such a mother-in-law."

"Yes," said Sujata, grinning slightly, "I have no complaints directly from my mother-in-law. But I don’t like the way Anil worships him. They are best judged by constantly comparing their cooking and my cooking and everything between me and them. "

"So what's wrong with that?" Better a poor horse than no horse at all. My mother always says that a man who makes his mother happy also takes good care of his wife, ”said Megha.

Sujata said a little annoyed, "I think I'm just as lucky. But I will probably have to wait my whole life for that. Anil spends every evening with his mom watching 'bhakti songs' channel or mother-in-law's serial. He also insists on taking his mom with him when he goes out. Even when I went on honeymoon, I used to call home twice a day. He didn't even accept a high-paying job because his mom didn't like being late for dinner. I thought, I don't like Chinese food, so I don't eat it. But two days ago I found out that his mother had said that this would cause illness. So he doesn't eat Chinese. "

Now Megha understood the seriousness of the matter. "It seems to me that Anil is Mavdio," he said in a worried tone.

It had been six months since Suketu's marriage. But he stays in the office late into the night. He is not in a hurry to go home even if there is no work in the office. Her friends were also shocked by her behavior. Why isn't newlywed Suketu in a hurry to go home? Her friend Rohit asked her about it, "So there were tears in Suketu's eyes. Sukettu said he did not want to go home because of his wife and mother. Due to Suketu, there is competition between the two. Because of this, Suketu often had to eat breakfast and dinner twice to keep them both happy. If one of the two is not given then there are fights in the house. Suketu now goes home late at night to escape the daily grind.

The son's position between mother and wife becomes strained. If the son obeys the mother and respects her feelings, then he is considered 'Mavdio'. When the wife believes or asks him, he is called 'Vahu Ghelo'. It happens to both mother and wife that they are of no importance. They both want a son and a husband. And that too without any involvement. At that point the son's condition worsens.

Daughters are praised when they behave like fathers, save the home. And when the son saves the mother, why is he called Mavdio? The girls are proud to be the father’s daughter. When the son's son is ashamed to say. Why so much discrimination in society?

In every house, a little flirtation starts with the steps of the daughter-in-law. Both the mother and the wife are right in their own way, sometimes creating a 'mountain of mustard' by overemphasizing one or both of them. Explaining to them, the husband's condition worsens. And all attempts to persuade them fail. The husband is trapped between the mother and the wife. As soon as he comes home, the mother starts complaining. And at night when he goes to the bedroom the wife greets him by crying or blowing his mouth. That is why there is no peace in his life.

The male ego has always been nurtured in our society. Most sons are closer to their mother from an early age. And because of that the mother feels a kind of pride. The men in our house depend on the women of the house for every job. The son has been working for his mother since childhood. The mother is always working. As the son becomes younger. As his dependence on his mother diminishes. The mother coming to the wife when he gets married. To show his right, he goes to take extra care of his son. The wife also wants to show her dominance over the husband. Thus the quarrel between the mother and the wife begins and the husband becomes the victim.

The man needs to cultivate harmony between mother and wife. Neither should experience contempt or neglect. After marriage, the wife has to leave everything and make the park her own. So it is your duty to take care of it and its features. In the same way mother has sacrificed for you for the rest of her life. He has brought you up in sorrow. So it is also your responsibility to protect his dignity. That is why it is necessary to maintain harmony between the two. Do not disregard the mother, nor give the wife more importance than the mother. If you give proper respect to both of them, sweetness will be maintained in the relationship.

Whenever there is a quarrel between mother and wife, do not take sides. Don't get involved in their fights until it happens. It is not appropriate to quarrel with the mother who is slandering the wife or to beat or beat the wife on the mother's complaint. This makes the situation worse. Instead of being angry with each other, sit down and talk to each other. This will bring out the thoughts of the mind and tell each other that listening will remove the confusion of the mind. Suketu was plagued by complaints from his mother and wife. If he sat next to his mother, she would list the complaints. And if he went to his wife at night, she would start crying. There was no particular reason for the quarrel between the two. Yet the atmosphere in the house remained tense. He finally confronted his mother and wife one day and asked them to open their minds and talk. All complaints were resolved. And then there was no misunderstanding between the two. And their relationship became normal.

Explain to the wife just before the wedding that you respect the mother and expect her to respect the mother as well. And also explained your duties towards home in advance. So that his wife does not feel that he is stealing from her and helping her in the house. Remember, too, that the wife and her needs are not neglected in order to take care of the household. If it happens to the wife that she will not have any problem with you. You are handling the mother's needs as well as her and the children's responsibilities properly. So there will be no fights in the house. Yes, the wife must be consulted when doing something for the mother or the house. So that he realizes that his idea is also important in the house.

The mother is usually fifty-five years old by the time the son gets married. He has given up his happiness and desires to raise his son for the rest of his life. And he has raised you as a support in his old age. When the time comes to fulfill the mother's expectations after marriage. With that in mind it should be saved.

It is important to maintain harmony between mother and wife. Both are your relatives. Then why these tugs and fights? There will be peace in the home if you work with a little insight and practice skills.

- Nayana