I love you i will love you for life

- Vedana-Samvedana- Mrigesh Vaishnav

- "Whose marriage lasts a long time, does their married life have a love affair or do they learn to live without love?"

The fountain of love flowing between me has dried up. Our love is almost dead. We fight every day over small things. Before the wedding we felt like we had a lot in common. After marriage we feel that our thoughts, upbringing, hobbies are all so different that they just don't understand why we got married. Does this happen in all cases? How can love be maintained after marriage?

"I love you.", "I love you."

These words may have been uttered and heard by everyone in life. These are the words you like to speak and hear.

Because love is at the center of human existence. No one walks without love. Whether man likes himself or not, it is his desire to be loved by others. We will need love as long as we live.

Here, Swamaha's question is, "If love is so important, then why the number of married couples is increasing day by day due to lack of love?" Is there a definite expiration date for love in married life? "

Hundreds of couples have asked me this question. Because their dreams of a happier life after marriage have shattered by colliding with the wall of reality. Their inner anguish has become unbearable. They find relationships overwhelming. From "made for each other" they have now become "made for etching other". Let us examine some true cases.

The first case is that of Nihar and Nirzari, who had a love cum arranged marriage after a four-year love affair in college. They had been married for seven years.

In his first year of college, Nishar had a relentless click. First look at sight and then heart to heart. After falling in love, their love blossomed and the two reached the paradise of relationship. But in the two-three years after the marriage, they had their first child and their love began to crumble like a palace of cards.

Nihar didn't want a baby so early. But he succumbed to the pressure of Nirzari. After the birth of the child, all the attention of Nirzari was focused on the child. Nihar began to feel that Nirjari had no need for it. Probably a factor as to why they're doing so poorly.

Whenever Nihar was disgusted with this, Nirzari used to lash out at him and accuse him of not having any interest in Nirzari. Because she quits her job and takes care of the child by giving a double role of nurse and nanny round the clock. Instead of trying to recover, they wallow in their sadness and thus, experience more failure.

Nihar tried to help. At present their child is four years old. He goes to school every morning, picks up in the afternoon, teaches in the evening. Tells a story at night. All this despite the busy schedule of his work while there is no change in Nirjari's attitude towards him. Not only that, they do not agree on anything.

Before marriage, they constantly felt that their thoughts, upbringing, hobbies, future dreams are all coming together but the present situation is quite the opposite. Talking about improving the relationship was one sided but now Nirzari started talking about having another child.

Nihar felt that they could not spend much time together. Because they have nothing in common. Their love has died after marriage. The fountain of love flowing between them has dried up. His love is dying. They fought to the last in small matters. After seven years of marriage, they wanted to know if there was any essence in the relationship.

Another case that requires marital counseling is Stuti and Alayano. They were married at an older age. After eating into other love-relationships in the past, they wanted to move on. When the two met in the office after their last breakup, they were in no hurry to forge a relationship. Alay believed that if his future wife was a little younger, he would not argue, fight, insult or treat her with respect.

Stuti believed that if the future husband is mature when he is older, he should understand him instead of talking like a boy.

Their friendship grew as their basic needs were met. Returned to Haryana. Talked a lot. Understanding each other, they gradually began to feel that they love each other maturely. Both have truly understood the meaning of love.

Both got married. Even after the marriage, Alay kept on confessing his love in front of Stuti as before, saying how proud he was to get it, he kept on loving Stuti very much.

But after a while, Stuti started to feel that Alay was treating her like an office worker. Sometimes she even believed that Alay had a bad relationship with her secretary. At times, he seemed to be a very timid and dull man. Stuti's behavior and attitude towards Alay became completely negative.

Alay didn't understand who noticed her love? Because the praise was very positive when they were dating before marriage. He had no complaints, considering all his things to be the best. After the marriage, Stuti started making mistakes in small matters. His love for Alay began to turn into hatred.

The third case is that of Kiana and Ryan. Their marriage lasted only six months. The couple decided to divorce by mutual consent. A family court judge once advised her on marital counseling.

Ryan-Qian's love was like a torrential downpour. Everything instant. Their deepest love collapsed during the honeymoon. The number of months dating her was heavenly. He felt that he was Janmojan's partner. But after the honeymoon, they started to feel that they are Hindustan-Pakistan.

The fourth case is Asha and Nilayan. Ashka complains about Nilay that in twenty years of marriage she has never paid attention to him. Didn't sit down and talk. He is the king of the night. He is good at attacking at night. He needs to be able to make love by playing tricks. But in fact do not love him at all. He is interested in nothing but sex. He hates ventricles. When Nilay says he has car-bungalow sugh sahibi everything. What did he not give to his wife? Even then she does not love her husband. Where did their love go after marriage? Does this happen in all cases?

All couples who come for marital counseling have the following questions.

"Do those whose marriages last for a long time have love in their married life or do they learn to live without love?"

"How can love last after marriage?"

Hundreds of books have been written on love and relationships. Hundreds of articles are published in magazines and dailies. Tips for expressing love for your spouse Programs and workshops are held. There is also a lot of discussion on social media. But millions of couples do not get the answer to this question or they do not understand the answer.

So, like a number of couples, to live a married life without love or to do something to keep the love throbbing?

If you want to do anything, just say to your spouse in the new year, "I love you ... I will love you for the rest of my life."

Neurograph

Love is a state of mind. The art of love has to be learned from a conscious mind.