confusion

- I am married for 37 years. I have been married for 15 years, but I am still not able to become a mother, we have undergone many treatments. But no exact reason is known.

I am married for 37 years. I have been married for 15 years, but still I am not able to become a mother, we have undergone many treatments. We have also done all the tests as per the doctor's advice, but no definite reason is known. Can artificial insemination help?

a woman (dakor)

* In about ten percent of cases of infertility, no definite cause can be identified even after all the tests and thorough investigations are done. It is possible that something similar has happened to you. Instead of artificial insemination at this age, it would be advisable to adopt a child to fulfill your desire to have children. At this age, first of all, the chances of successful conception are negligible. Second, there is a risk of complications. It is also not fair in terms of the child's health. Children of mothers older than 35 years are more likely to have chromosomal abnormalities.

My age is 25 years. Four years ago I gave birth to a daughter by caesarean section. Since then I have been using Copper-T for family planning. I am also undergoing thyroid treatment since last year and my weight has increased to 74 kg. I want to know if the thyroid disease and body swelling are not all caused by the use of copper tea. We don't want another baby for two years so what would be the best solution?

a girl (borsad)

* Copper-T's effect is local only. Therefore, it is not appropriate to think about thyroid gland disease. It's just a coincidence that you were affected by a thyroid imbalance and gained weight after taking Copper-T.

Weight gain is common when there is deficiency of thyroid hormone in the body. Now that you are taking the medicine, it is possible that very soon your body's metabolism will also rebalance and the weight gain will also stop.

Once the condition is under control, you can take appropriate measures to lose weight.

I am a 21 year old girl. My breast development has stopped. My height is not increasing either. White lines have fallen on thighs and buttocks. White discharge from the vagina. Everyone at home is talking about my marriage, but I am very worried because of all these things, will my married life be happy? Somewhere I don't have a serious disease right?

A Girl (Vadodara)

* You don't need to worry about this at all. The accumulation of body fat during adolescence causes the skin on the thighs and buttocks to stretch, causing white lines to appear there. Thus, it is also normal for the vagina to produce a little more secretion as the body matures.

Just know that normal vaginal discharge is clear or milky in color and does not smell bad. Breast development and height increase in Indian girls only till 14-15 years, yes in some girls even till 16-17 years. But this is a natural feature that no one can control.

It is a sad thing that despite reading many subjects and books in schools, we do not know about our own body and its functions and secrets. We get accurate knowledge of these subjects to live a healthy, pleasant normal life.

You should read any authoritative book related to this subject to clear your confusion.

I am 21 years married. I have been married for two years. We want children, but do not get success. The doctor has checked up and said that my stomach is swollen and has advised me not to conceive for another two years. What should I do?

a wife (kapadvanj)

* You are not yet old enough to worry about children. Especially when the doctor has advised you not to try to get pregnant right now. Follow proper treatment and advice of doctors.

I am 18 years old. I am in love with a boy. He does not belong to our caste so my family does not wish to marry him. We cannot live without each other. I want to know if we get married voluntarily will our family accept it right?

A Girl (Surat)

* You haven't made it clear how old your love is and he's standing on his own feet right? Also her family is happy for this marriage right?

Both of you can get married voluntarily if the boy is able to lead the world after marriage, able to perform his duty and his age is 21 years or above.

If both the families are not agreeing to this marriage then you have to convince them. Explain to them that inter-caste marriage is common now. Society no longer looks down on him.

If they don't agree then you can do court marriage, but before marriage it is necessary to check and think about the boy in all ways. Because the decision to get married is yours.

If any problem arises after marriage, the responsibility will be yours, so take the decision carefully.

- Anita