Why does man suffer when he tries to be happy?

- Guftego- Dr. Chandrakant Mehta

- 'Mourning and fear are joined to joy like light and shadow. The man is truly happy in whose vision both are equal.

* When a man tries to be happy, why does that man get sad?

* Questioner: Nikul Sureshbhai Barot, Thakkar Bapa Society Jabuba High School, Barwala (Ghelasha)

Beliefs about happiness differ from person to person. Some find happiness in anger and some in renunciation. Some find happiness in heaps of wealth and some in honesty and contentment. Happiness and sadness are related to each other. The same person can be both pleasant and painful. When a man is deeply in love, he feels happiness, but when he knows or sees that his beloved is not faithful, love turns to hate, and happiness to sorrow.

In fact, life should not be lived in any terms. Life is ultimately life. Life does not guarantee that one will be happy forever! A man feels mental happiness when his expectations are fulfilled but when his expectations are not met, he becomes sad because the cause of suffering is his own mind. The association of expectation with happiness measures the degree to which the expectation is satisfied, so unsatisfied desires make it sad. After trying to get happiness, walking on believing that you will get happiness doubles your pain. Actually, 'God has created happiness, the mind believes in the mind, suffering means that suffering is not involved in the desire to get happiness, but the insistence that we must get happiness according to our desire makes a person sad. Narsingh Mehta believes in fatalism and says that

Do not bring happiness and sorrow in the mind

Ray hours with Ghat

Avoid it nine times

Raghunath's roots

Sometimes a person has a desire to be happy and if he takes wrong ways to satisfy his desire, he may get failure. At the time of failure, instead of introspection, he becomes saddened by failure and sometimes blames fate or God in despair. Here Srimad Bhagavad Gita chapter-2 verse: 47 reassures. "Karmanye vadhikaraste, ma phaleshu sikran, ma karmafalheturbhuma, te sangodstavakarmani" - means that you have the right only to do the action, never to its fruits. If you are the object of the fruits of your actions, become free from expectations and do your actions with the sense of duty and do not get attached to not doing your actions. In the next 48th verse, Shri Krishna says, by giving up attachment and having equanimity in success and failure, perform the duties established in yoga.

Why is it said in the Gita that man should do karma and give up his attachment to fruits? Because if a person does karma with attachment to fruit, his eyes will be more on fruit and less on karma. May his donation be such that I reduce karma and get more fruits. Some students work less hard to pass. He tries to pass the exam by cheating and as a result, he ends up in total destruction. Therefore, when the expected result is not obtained despite doing the karma, I believe that there is some deficiency in my karma, maybe there is a lack of preparation, there is a lack of karma. So it is only advisable to do karma with equanimity while being attached to success and failure.

When the seeker tries to attain happiness, he does not sit watching the path of suffering, nor do I strike at him. Karmic motion is profound. Sometimes the unexpected happiness comes automatically and the happiness that is expected does not come. That is why detachment from attachment is suggested. A man's excessive attraction to attachment causes him pain. If a man can control his passions, he can prevent many miseries. Humans should understand that life is not just a spring. There is spring and also autumn. In fact the very thought of suffering makes a man sad, there was no time to think about suffering for one who was busy with work. Mahabharata describes the centers of happiness in human life. Regular financial income, health, beloved wife, obedient son, and economic knowledge - these six things are happiness in this world. The Mahabharata also adds that 'Being healthy, not having debt, not having to live in a foreign country, mixing with gentlemen, living on one's own earnings and living fearlessly - these six things are earthly happiness. Many miseries are also born from the faults in man's pursuit of happiness.'

It is true of John Stuart Mill that 'I have learned that happiness consists in restraining desires, not in trying to satisfy them. Due to unfulfilled desires, a person becomes disturbed, distressed, restless. Such unrest is the creator of suffering.'

Man is the bond of happiness. So, if he does not get things that make him happy, he becomes sad, even if those things are harmful. He can't drink alcohol or smoke cigarettes without it, and if he doesn't get it, he considers it a pain. According to an illustration, 'Happiness and suffering are the beliefs of the mind. Two youths from a certain village went abroad to earn money. He stayed there for many years and earned a lot. One of those two people died and the other was returning home with the earned money. A sly one came to know about this and came to the country a few days ahead and said the opposite. whose son had died, said to him that your son has come with a lot of money. He told the boy whose son was earning that his son is dead. Because of this lie, the living boy started mourning and the dead boy started celebrating. The reason for this is that the boy created by God is dead and the boy created by Manarachit lives. So the living boy mourns and the dead boy rejoices. The mourner was satisfied when the boy arrived. And the happy one began to mourn. It means that God does not give happiness and sorrow to anyone, the creation of the human mind gives happiness and sorrow.'

So it is up to us to be happy in both happiness and unhappiness. While enjoying happiness, one should understand that happiness is temporary. Change is bound to happen and one who is mentally prepared to accept that change can avoid suffering even in the opposite situation.

If there is happiness, but if the mental state of a person is deteriorated, then happiness also feels painful to him. True happiness is internal, not external. Your happiness and unhappiness lies in how you look at events. Be it a king or a rank, a saint or a worldly person, no one is free from suffering. Sheikhsadi has rightly said that it is God who bestows happiness and sorrow by making an enemy or a friend an instrument. According to Ghammapada, sorrow and fear are connected with joy in the same way as light and shadow. That man is truly happy in whose vision both are equal. Keep trying, be free from the preconceived notion that suffering is coming.