Explain to children the difference between good and bad touch

- If a stranger hugs you forcefully, kill him. Convince them that their body is theirs alone. No one can touch it.

We often read the news of child sexual exploitation in newspapers and magazines. And now there are also incidents of killing girls after sexual exploitation. The shocking thing is that the perpetrators of such harassment are mostly their family members or acquaintances. How to save them in such a situation? In response, psychiatrists and sociologists say to teach children the difference between good and bad touch. The time is ripe for us to come out of the narrow-mindedness of touch and teach children about it. When they feel that a certain type of touch makes them nervous, it is important that they talk to their parents immediately instead of panicking. Otherwise, until they are given an understanding of such a matter, they will continue to be victims of people with distorted minds.

Psychiatrists and sociologists also say that once upon a time children grew up in joint families, so their grandparents kept an eye on them. Women were also mostly housewives, so their children were always in front of their eyes. But now times have changed. The number of nuclear families has increased. And since both parents are working, children grow up with a relative or in the arms of a nanny. In such a situation, the possibility of their sexual exploitation increases. It is better to explain to them the difference between good and bad touch.

However, parents do not understand at what age to explain this to the child. In response to this, experts say that when your baby starts talking, starts talking about his needs, understands the surrounding situation and what you say well, this can be explained to him. They further say that because children are naive, they do not understand what is said seriously. can They have to explain such things in their language, i.e. in game play. Like show them by playing any position in front of them. Explain to them not to go near strangers at all. Do not go out with anyone without telling family members. Do not be tempted by things like chocolate-pepper-biscuits, rather refuse to take them if someone gives them. He adds that even children cannot express such things verbally. But an unwanted touch should make them shy. So giving them this kind of training they will immediately resist it. And when the children want to tell you something, listen carefully and understand them. Sometimes the bug is trying to stay away from some member of the house. In such a situation, parents cannot understand it and teach them not to stay away from uncle or to leave mom. In fact, they should first investigate why the child is trying to stay away from a particular person. Also, if there is any change in his behavior, immediately try to understand the reason behind it. If he is irritated or afraid to talk, then spank him and find out the reason. Most of the time, the parents are pushing the child. In this case, the child cannot speak his mind.

Giving more information on how to teach a child the difference between good and bad touch, experts say that they can also be told to shrug off a stranger if they give you a big hug. Convince them that their body is theirs alone. No one can touch him. Yes, if his grandparents or younger ones touch him on purpose, there is no need to scare him if his touch does not shock him. The touch that feels warm is called right touch. They also say to explain to the child that if someone touches their private part, i.e. the sexual part, immediately shake it off. If he doesn't agree with the strike, cry loudly or scold him. Similarly, if someone threatens him in a certain way, if he does not tell anyone, then he should tell his parents.

There are laws in place to punish those who sexually abuse children. So you can also explain to the child that if someone touches you in an undesired manner, you can arrest him in the police. So tell this to the parents without fear.

- Vaishali Thakkar