A teenage daughter needs to be given an understanding of beauty treatments

- A mother can be the guide of a daughter who is under the influence of peers

It is natural for teenage girls to want to make various choices regarding makeup, hair style and dress. But due to this, mother should take special care that her daughter does not become obsessed with fashion at a young age.

At one time, the daughter was made to do housework as soon as she understood. The mother was impatient to make her daughter adept in cooking by giving her good manners. This was especially applicable to the Kathiawadi mother. Similarly, the daughter also followed her every step seriously to become an excellent housewife just like her mother. At that time, the daughter used to get information about clothes and makeup or style from her friends or sister-in-law or elder sister.

But today times have changed. Along with good manners and virtues, outward appearance has grown in importance. Hence, it has become necessary for every mother to teach her teenage daughter good manners and cooking along with proper guidance about grooming and fashion. It is natural for teenage girls to want to make various choices regarding makeup, hair style and dress. But due to this, mother should take special care that her daughter does not become obsessed with fashion at a young age. Yes, the mother must give permission to do all the things that are necessary keeping in view the demand of the time and provide proper guidance for the same. But some things are included in this and the mother feels the need to scold her daughter about something. Nowadays even 10-12 year old daughters have gone to beauty parlour. Just like the actresses of movies and serials, the craze to look beautiful is instilled in the brain at a young age, but these innocent girls do not have the knowledge that it is right or wrong to undergo beauty treatment at a young age. Usually on seeing Sakhis they go to the parlour.

In fact, a mother of a 10-12-year-old daughter should sit with her loved one and talk about the beauty treatments offered in the beauty parlor. Today every mother goes to the parlor herself. Therefore, the daughter should be told why she goes to the parlor and gets any treatment done and the reasons behind it like growing age, excess body hair etc. Talk about this with a peer, not the daughter's mother. Yes, during this conversation, the mother should not insist that the daughter adopt her own ideas. Instead, try to bring out the thoughts or ideas in his mind by asking questions.

Generally, at the age of 12-15 years, the influence of the ideas of peers is more profound than that of the mother. This is also the reason behind certain types of ideas about external beauty. Hence, mother should talk to her daughter in such a way that her confidence is maintained and she gets proper guidance. During the conversation, compliment the daughter's skin, hair or anything else that is beautiful. By doing this, the confidence of the daughter will increase.

Many 12-14-year-old girls are embarrassed by the hair on their arms and legs. If they lead the school in tennis or any other sport, this can also affect their confidence. In such a case, the daughter should be taken to the beauty parlor for waxing every few times. But it is not necessary to do manicure-pedicure at a young age. Fingernails and toenails should be kept small in schools and colleges. Therefore, after the age of 21 years, give the advice that manicure-pedicure should be done.

During puberty, the skin is very tender and undergoes a lot of changes. Therefore, the mother should make her daughter understand that it is not necessary to take any kind of beauty treatment on the face at this age. If the daughter is 17-18 years old and is in a hurry to get a beauty treatment, explain to her that the treatment is 'anti-ageing' and is meant for older girls. So she should stay away from such treatment till she reaches 30 years of age.

However, as it is not necessary to deny the daughter everything, allow her to apply a moisturizer or an occasional light lipstick for her satisfaction. However, to make the skin bright, use milk, cream, honey, rose-water etc. household items as much as possible. This will not harm the skin.

Today, the trend of different types of hair cut or hair coloring has increased so much that it is difficult to explain it to the daughter. Among them, the daughter who has passed the tenth standard and entered the college, is eager to celebrate the freedom she got from school rules by cutting her hair. Hence allowing him to cut his hair so as not to offend his heart, but then only allow a trim every three months. If this matter is not allowed, the daughter will do whatever she wants to do without asking, and a kind of tension will arise. However, it is very important to inform the daughter about the damage caused by straightening, curling and coloring while allowing the haircut. However, if the daughter insists on curling or straightening in the name of the latest style, consider her birthday or any other occasion to give concessions. But take special care that he does temporary curling or straightening only so that the effect goes away after washing the hair.

Allowing her to accept some of her friend's words despite being and treating her as a friend. As soon as this happens, the daughter will become aware of her feelings for the mother and it is possible that the mother will also learn something new.

If possible, the mother should also go to the beauty parlor with her 18-20 year old daughter. And both take beauty treatment together. This will increase the confidence of the daughter a lot. Similarly, he will automatically get information like how to behave with the staff in the parlor or how much to tip.