The husband's desire, the wife refuses.

- A wife who keeps her husband away from sex for no reason or who has sex only of her own free will. Calling it selfish is called immoral. Indian courts consider the husband or wife to keep their partner away from sex for a long period of time without reason as mental.

- If a wife loves and trusts her husband, intercourse becomes a means of intimacy and happiness for her, but in a husband-wife relationship prone to revenge, jealousy and discord, cohabitation is experienced involuntarily or as revenge. .

In the Hindi film 'Ki and Ka', the protagonist who plays the role of a housewife says to the heroine who plays the role of a husband in bed at night that today nahi dalag, today my head hurts. It is worth mentioning that if a boy plays the role of a wife, he will also get headaches in the name of sex. Why is it that the wife is considered a bit colder towards sex than the husband? Whether it is an excuse or a fact about headache, it comes out of the wife's mouth. Does the talk of cohabitation really give a headache to the wife? Being romantic becomes painful if a wife lacks attraction or love for her husband, but when there is an important reason without denying it?

The difference between the mentality of men and women

Men and women are different when it comes to sex. On the one hand, a man's mind is stimulated by the mere attention of a woman's physical structure, on the other hand, a woman's emotional connection and trust in her partner take her to the side. Sex for a woman is not only physical but also mental and emotional. The song 'Banho Mein Chale Ao...' from the old Hindi film 'Anamika' or the song 'Ang Daga De' from the film 'Ramlila'. Many such songs present this theme. If a wife loves and trusts her husband, intercourse becomes a means of intimacy and happiness for her, but in a husband-wife relationship prone to revenge, jealousy and discord, cohabitation is experienced involuntarily or vicariously, but some Sometimes our mindset, our culture, our perception misrepresents sex and we unknowingly reject it. It is possible and easy to cure.

What the research says

Director of the Sexual Medicine Program at the University of British Columbia Dr. Rosemary Besson states that the biggest complaint related to sexual satisfaction in women is their lack of desire, arousal and sexual satisfaction. (Another special issue is the gender difference. On the one hand, 1/3 of women have more libido than men. On the other hand, in 23 couples, the male activity is more than the female. So in this couple, a woman does not get a chance to feel her libido due to an aroused man.

Florida University Dr. Lori Ming in her book 'A Tired Women's Guide to Passionate Sex' states that even where women are highly active, they are unable to enjoy arousal and sexual satisfaction due to daily household responsibilities.

Perspectives of Indian Law

A wife who keeps her husband away from sex for no reason or who has sex only of her own free will. Calling it selfish is called immoral. Indian courts consider the husband or wife to keep their partner away from sex for a long period of time without reason as mental. There are many such instances where the court has allowed divorce on this argument in the hearing. In April, 2005, husband Keshav filed a divorce petition against wife Savita in the Madras High Court on grounds of non-intimate relationship for a long time, which he got granted. Against this decision of the Madras High Court, the wife Savita went to the Supreme Court where Justice Jyoti Mukhopadhyay and Justice Praful Pant upheld the decision of the Madras High Court and said that if a husband or wife is not allowed to have a relationship for a long time without any evidence or physical weakness, it is in the category of mental retardation. is counted. In his words, mental trauma hurts more than physical injury.

Look into the past

A relative of Malini did not even look at her child age while raping her.. The result is that even today she is afraid to go near her husband as if the same hands are forcing her on her body. The wife practices sex like a religion and fully lives the moment she spends with her husband. Did something happen in your past that had a profound effect on your present? It is possible that you are afraid to have sex today because of an old bad experience. If you have experienced any abuse in the past that you were not happy with when you were in a relationship, you should seek professional help as soon as possible and free yourself from that bad past.

Get rid of physical problem

Sometimes due to physical problems like hormonal imbalance, a woman's mind gets tired of sex. You should see a sexologist if you feel a lack of physical responsibility more than an emotional lack of interest in sex. It will get rid of problems like not reaching climax, lack of affection, painful intercourse, medicine taken by you, due to which you have lack of sex drive etc.

Enjoy with Humsafar

'Even with you I feel like I'm with a corpse. In an intimate moment, not getting any response from his wife, Amit said. If the wife never takes the initiative in love, then the husband has to take the initiative. As a result, the husband will fall victim to the sense of insecurity and will start to do more than necessary and the result will be that the wife will withdraw from the husband on more initiative than he needs. If the husband is assured that the wife will also take the initiative, he will calmly wait for the wife to be ready.

When a wife not only accepts, but also initiates, sex is consensual rather than a compulsion, obligation or coercion.

The book is very helpful

Most of the family traditions are such, due to which girls consider sex as bad or bad and hence they cannot talk about it even after marriage. To remove his hesitation, he can read the book 'Guide to Getting It On, The Good Girls' Guide to Great Sex' etc.

Samuel therapy is also beneficial

Sometimes it is not appropriate to proceed on your own. If you are having trouble living a healthy marriage, you may want to consider professional help. Samuel therapy starts from scratch. As if you two are meeting for the first time. Gradually the relationship is strengthened in the couple. Sex is done step by step. It is possible that your husband is not ready to go to such a program. In that case, you alone can benefit from such a program. You will find that with the help of a counsellor, you will not only find a solution to any problem related to sex, but it will also be easier for you to talk about it with your husband. The constant change in society is also changing gender roles and sexuality. Sex is not something a man will do for a woman or a woman for a man. There should be equal participation in sex.