Dalpatram's patriarchal mentality was seen in the personal lives of the family life reformers

'Hindu Ghar Sansar' is a subject of research and contemplation. It is associated with social change. In the 19th century, on the one hand, the society was improving and on the other hand, contradictions were seen in the lives of the social reformers.

The patriarchal mentality was not only seen in the social life, but also in the life of the social reformers.

Literate people and intellectuals like Narmad, Dalpatram and Manilal Nabhubhai were talking about 'Yatra Naryastu Pujyante' in public. On the other hand, his behavior with his wife in his home made him think in a different direction.

Narmada has published 'My Fact' (19) and Manilal has published a diary and talked about his family life. Dhirubhai Thackeray has furthered the Manilal theme by publishing 'Manilal Nabhubhai Dwivedi's Autobiography (18).

Dalpatram was left so here we will talk in that direction. The intention here is not to coax Dalpatram. It is not intended to underestimate Dalpataram's contribution to literary and social reform, but to talk about some lesser-known or unfamiliar aspects of Dalpataram's life in order to give a true picture of how the patriarchal mentality of the time was reflected in the lives of reformers.

In fact Narmad, Dalpatram and Manilal were the greatest literates of Saika in the nineteenth century, though they too were ultimately human beings. These literates were not omnipotent. That is why they too became a part of the social life of that time.

The social reform movement that broke out in Gujarat before the Gandhi era was very important. Yet the fact remains that social reform went through unbearable mental and physical torture of women. In this context, Dalpataram has spoken here.

Dalpatram's uncle was raised there

Dalpatram Dahyabhai Travadi (120-16) was born in the Samvedi Shrimali Brahmin family of Wadhwan. As Dahyabhai M was torturing his wife Amrutba and child Dalpataram unbearably, Amrutba kept going to his brothers' home village. Since the uncles followed the Swaminarayan sect, Amritaba and the children also adopted it. As his father Dahyabhai was a strict Vedanti, he protested but nothing happened so he became a hermit and died in 19.

Dalpatram and his brother Dinkar and sister Jakor grew up in Mosal. He lived with his mother and mama till Amrutala's death in 18.

Dalpatram's first marriage was to Muliba

Since Dalpatram had a sweet relationship with 'Farber Saheb', his children called Farbus 'Sahebkaka' and his wife Margaret 'Mamkaki'.

Dalpataram was married three times. The first marriage took place in 18 with Kanya Muliba (17-18) of Kutch. Muliba Rapar was the daughter of a tribal farmer from Rondrani village in the taluka. At that time Dalpat was ten years old and Muliba was five years old. In those days child marriages took place naturally, Dalpatram and Mulibana also got married as children.

Muliba passed away on May 20 at the home of her son Mohanlal (19-17) in Anjar. Mooliba had four children - Purushottam (16-17), Ramkunwar (12-14) and Harikunwar (131-1904). Purushottam died in infancy but the remaining children Ramkunwar, Harikunwar and Mohanlal lived long. Since Dalpataram had a sweet relationship with 'Farber Saheb', his children used to call Farbus 'Sahebkaka' and his wife Margaret '' Mamkaki ''. Not only that, but her children were having fun with Henry John and Edward. Dalpatram's children learned to speak English while playing. Mooliba and Margaret became sisters.

However, all this lasted only a few years. There was constant discord between Muliba and Dalpatram. As the two differed on the issue of education, ideological differences also grew. The relationship between the two became very tense.

Dalpatram married another

After the differences between the two escalated, Dalpatram planned a second marriage. (Even in Hindu society at that time, the practice of having more than one marriage was prevalent among men.) He decided to marry Kashi, the sister of caste brother Mulji Ojha.

It's about 12. When Muliba went to the Sabarmati river to wash clothes, Dalpatram, Mama Premanand and younger brother Dinkar went home with the help of Gujarati Vernacular Society as per the previous plan. Wadhwan went with the children. Going there, Dalpatram married his nine-year-old daughter Ramkunwar. Five-year-old Harikunwar also decided at the same time with Chaturbhuj, son of Jagannath Ojha of Dhrangadhra and three-year-old Mohan decided with Chaturbhuj Ojha's sister. (Remember, at that time child marriages took place naturally. Reformers were also becoming part of it knowingly or unknowingly. Of course, it is a surprise.)

Ramkunwar was turned over by his father-in-law, so now Dalpatram returned to Ahmedabad with Harikunwar and Mohanlal. Mooliba was shocked. They were devastated.

In the 19th, Dalpatram married Kashiba (120-14) for the second time. Reputation is good in the society, so 9 year old Dalpatram got a bride. Mooliba filed a food claim in court. The court fixed Rs 50 per annum. Eventually Muliba left Wadhwan-Ahmedabad and went to Kutch. He kept Abola with Dalpatram for life. His son Mohanlal died at his home in Anjar, Kutch on May 20, 19.

Mohanlal was the judge in charge in Kutch. Mohanlal also never spoke to Baap. Mohanlal published a collection of poems called "Mohanlal alias Mohanlal Dohan" in 19. He wrote in the preamble, "I lived in poverty, separated from my father. His love for his mother and his hatred for his father are expressed in the following verse:

"Hope to meet the roots in this incarnation now ...

Your intoxication floats in sight, the ball of fear is heavy

I remember your picture, your nine weights ...

Don't overdo it, never oppress

Don't let go of those who hold hands, knowingly weak

God is the witness of the fire, whose hand is the net

Never forsake him, never mind the Lord of the universe. "

In 19th, Dalpatram and Kashiba lived in the house of their brother-in-law Mulji Ojha in Sarangpur Taliyan Pol Dalpatram's marriage did not last long. After giving birth to a girl named Bijkunwar in 19, 22-year-old Kashiba died in Taliyan.

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