Allow daughter to date or not?

- Confusion of Indian parents living abroad

Indians who have lived in the United States for years will be painted in Western colors from the outside. During a visit to India, words like 'Ya' and 'OK' are heard in their mouths. We can guess how much they are painted in Western culture. But the real test comes when their children, especially their daughters, enter adolescence. Pretending to be a Westerner, parents are reluctant to allow their daughter to go out with a male friend.

"When my boyfriend first invited me to a party with him, I was in the sky at seven, but my joy was short-lived," says Kripa, who grew up in the United States. When I told my father about it, I was overwhelmed by the way he behaved. He refused to let me go to the party. "

This made Kripa very confused. Grace, who grew up in America, did not understand her father's behavior. Living in the Western style on the free land of America, his father was a pure Indian. The Indian rites that had penetrated the roots were still alive. Grace, which entered adolescence, grew up in American culture. The impact of American society was felt on his withered mind. Her father's behavior made her miserable. The question of how to live, not even a pure Indian and not even a pure American, began to haunt her. Eventually, Kripa married a young man of her parents' choice. And today she is the mother of the child, but the impression of this occasion has not yet been erased from her mind. He still blames his father for creating a ridiculous situation among his friends.

Such a situation is not only of grace but also of many Indian youth like grace. They live in a state of stagnation, neither pure Indian nor pure American.

Has the mindset of Indians living abroad changed today? Is this situation prevailing even after decades? Today's Indian parents allow their daughters to relax with a male friend, right?

Indian parents living in modern society are hesitant to decide how much freedom to give to their children. Parents who insist that children raised in the shadow of Western culture accept the same restrictions that they accepted when they were young create strife in the family. The problem becomes more serious when the importance of friendships increases for children who have been raised in an open environment since childhood.

According to psychologists living in the United States, the problem is exacerbated in large cities because it is difficult to monitor the movement of children in the city.

Even today daughters are not allowed to live life in their own way. The feeling of hatred is born in their minds as soon as they notice that their classmates get different grooming at home. Some young women become rebellious and try new ways to teach their parents a lesson.

In an Indian family living in America, a son was given more freedom than a daughter. Due to this behavior of the parents, the daughter made three failed attempts to commit suicide and finally she started wandering in the world of imagination. Began to consider himself a great artist. He was treated by a psychiatrist.

In a family that takes the lead in social gatherings, a 14-year-old daughter is not allowed to hang out with a male friend. He was kept under strict guard for fear that he would not get the right character due to his notoriety due to heterosexual friendship. She was emotionally pressured to keep her daughter in her arms, but when the daughter announced her decision to marry a young man from India who lives in the United States, but from another community, the parents did a lot of business and eventually the girl ran away against her parents' wishes.

Due to the sky-high atmosphere in the atmosphere between school and home, the condition of teenagers is like a betel nut between sudi. There is a fear that sometimes the minds of the youth will be adversely affected when the launderer's dog is not at home or at home. Parents take their children to Indian programs for the purpose of inculcating Indian culture in their children. Puts children in verse as well as yoga camps. Indian religion is irrigated.

It is a fact that Indian families settling in the US in the lure of getting a green card, earning dollars and becoming rich overnight are not ready to adopt Western culture.

-Nayana