Eliminate children's confusion about sex

Many children ask their parents, "Mommy, where did I come from?" "What is sex?" Parents are still upset when they hear such questions from children who have been listening to fairy tales and kings till yesterday. When the mom doesn't understand what to answer these questions or how to explain to the child, she can still silence them by saying you are still young or angry.

But Dr. Roshni Mehta, a child specialist at Apollo Hospital in Delhi, says that when you are not old enough to know questions about children that you feel uncomfortable answering, you will understand them when you grow up. That the children of the information revolution will not be satisfied with your answer.

If you do not talk about it, they will find out about it through other means, such as their friends, the media, the Internet or other means of communication. In this situation, it is possible that they may not get the correct information and it may become ingrained in their minds that sex is a topic that cannot be discussed in public. This is a restricted topic. While the good thing is that we should answer them in a roundabout way, but in simple language.

For example, a child aged 3-4 years may ask if I have a penis, why don't girls have it? Remember that children have this innate and general curiosity to know about body parts, so parents should try their best to give the child a satisfactory answer according to their ability. As parents should tell their child about body parts in their local language. However, if not today, then tomorrow the parents must tell the child that the boy's private part is called penis and the girl's private part is called vagina. In this way instill confidence in the child's mind that you are always ready to answer their questions. If there is any doubt in his mind, you will overcome it.

Here are some common questions and answers that children need to know. So that they develop responsibly and at the same time be able to make their own decisions.

Questions for children aged 6 to 8 years

Mom where did i come from

This question is bound to arise in the mind of every child of this age and if you do not give the right answer and reprimand him when asked, it will be called wrong. Don't even tell the child that you came from the house of God or Baba, but instead tell him the truth. Otherwise the child will become superstitious from childhood and will start believing that everything can be ordered from the house of God.

Children at this age understand everything from the example of animals or flowers. So explain the answers to their questions to them in their own language. Explain to them by giving an example of a flower how it is produced by me and then how I develop myself by separating from the human body. You can also tell them that you have come from a special organ in the human body, called the uterus. However they do not need to tell the whole process of birth.

What is sex?

The answer to this question is that mom and dad have a special love for each other, which is called sex.

Why is my brother and my private part different?

Explain to the children that just as dogs, elephants, horses, cows all have different anatomy, so do boys and girls have different anatomy and limbs.

What are sanitary napkins?

This question is also often asked by children after watching advertisements on TV. Don't answer this question out of fear, but explain to them that this is a napkin in the same way that mom gives you a napkin to clean your nose and hands. The difference is that this necklace is only for cleaning the private part and is used as an adult. They are not for children. Just as mom and baby clothes and handkerchiefs are different, so are napkins for babies and adults.

What is a condom?

Children often ask this question even after watching an advertisement on TV. Don't hide anything from children in this situation, but let them know that just as we wear gloves to protect our hands from any disease, condoms are also a type of glove that protects men from disease. If the child is older than 10, you can tell him that condoms protect men from disease during sex.

Questions for 10-12 year olds

Why is hair growing on my mustache and private part? Why is my voice changing?

First of all, reassure the child that it is normal to have a change of voice, acne, or a beard. They have no illness, but this is a normal process of adolescence. He should be happy that he is coming of age. Let them know that we grew up in the same way. These changes can be different in boys and girls, so don't be confused by the changes that take place in each other.

What are periods?

Every mother tells her daughter about periods. He should be told before he asks. She should be told about this as soon as she becomes a 10 year old girl. He would be upset if he got information from outside. So let the daughter know that this is a normal process. Every girl has to go through this process. You also tell him about your first experience that you also had pain during periods, but gradually got used to it.

Explain to the daughter about the hygiene that is taken care of during this time and other things so that she does not have any problem.

What is a Nightfall?

Don’t get angry at the child’s question, as he may be going through this age, so explain to him that this is perfectly normal. The way the toilet is made and disposed of in our body. In the same way, semen builds up in the body of boys and they fall asleep when it accumulates too much. There is nothing wrong with this process, so don't be afraid.

What is Masturbation?

When the semen is removed by touching one's own private part, it is called masturbation. Doing so does not cause any weakness in the body, but yes, diarrhea is bad for everything, so focus on study or other creative work.

Young children also need to be told which parts of the body are covered. Only believe in the right to touch it. The mother can touch the bath or the doctor can do it, but if someone other than these people does that, then why isn't that person his grandfather, mama, brother and they say don't tell anyone? Talk to your mom and dad about it. Also teach the child what to do if someone tries to touch his private part. You can teach him that in this situation he says don't touch me or I will complain to you. Let the child know that he is not afraid to complain even if the person intimidates or threatens.

What is a rap? If he asks this question, to explain the word rap, tell him that the way you don't let your doll touch anyone else, it's yours, only you have the right to love it, that's exactly how you are our doll. Only your mommy-daddy, grandparents can love you. If a stranger touches you in this way, you can call this coercive and disliked behavior rap when you don't like it.