A simple and accurate mantra to fail

- Vedana-Samvedana-Mrigesh Vaishnav

- Such people have the footprints of others on their backs. Because they are used by others as treadmills. People wipe their dirty feet on footstools and do not use it as a pillow cover to put under the head.

Hundreds of books, millions of workshops and millions of articles have been written about the exact mantra of success. That is why today I want to tell you something about the Guru Mantra for failure.

This mantra is not only a recipe for failure but also for anxiety, sadness, frustration and a stressful life.

There are many people who are always ready to make others happy. In doing so, these people seek their acceptance, respect, esteem and love. That is why they constantly try to make the person in front of them happy so that they change their behavior, wear whatever masks they like.

The following sounds are heard from the background of the minds of such people.

"If I don't keep him happy ... our relationship will break up."

"If I don't believe him, he will hate me."

"I ... can never be me ... I have to be what I like him to be."

"I can only succeed if others accept my work."

"There is no point in being too adventurous and self-righteous."

In the midst of such voices and thoughts, he wears a mask that others like. But slowly his breath starts to suffocate behind that front. His confidence and self-esteem are shattered.

People who want to keep people happy have the footprints of others on their backs. People use them like stepchildren.

This is what I explained to Swati that you should never allow yourself to become a pawn of others.

Swati had been depressed for 10 years and was suffering from dysthymic depression. Swati made many attempts to keep her drunken husband happy, but in the end her husband left her. The less educated helpless beggar could not find a job that could provide him with enough money to fill his stomach and a roof over his head for security. Her sister sheltered her and kept her housework, cooking and even saving her three children to keep Swati Motiben happy under the pressure of this favor.

In spite of all this, Swati had to listen to the chirping of the big Ben and the children.

Frustrated by such behavior of the people, Swati was taking medication for depression but the daily treatment of her was destroying her self-confidence and self-esteem. She often lost her temper but she did not have the courage to speak for her rights. She indulged herself in a timid cat.

I said to the frustrated Swati, "Speak calmly ..." "I don't do that much work" but with this sentence, if he gets upset and throws me out of the house, where will I go? "

I said, "Those people can't fire you because they need you more than you need them."

This came to his mind after saying it over and over again. He told his older sister to have a separate bai for the dishes and a separate cook for cooking.

After recovering from work, I got a job as a part-time baby sitter. She accepted the job despite not having much of a sister and rented a flat in a year and started doing baby seating. Money also began to arrive. Time was saved and work was appreciated.

Now the last thing she had to do was tell her older sister that her three boys could not save themselves. Which he did. Motiben felt a cowardly cat roar. But seeing the demands of the time, he paid the last five years of baby sitting money to Swati and requested her to save her children as well.

Swati stopped changing her clothes to make her sister happy and decided to live her life in her own way.

I explained to Swatiben that people who wipe their dirty feet with a treadmill never get the status of a pillowcase.

While keeping people happy, some people also believe that if they make such a sacrifice, their shortcomings will sometimes be accepted.

But that never happens. And the aspirations, dreams, and relationships of the person trying to keep the other happy eventually break down. They fail, become sad, frustrated and lose self-esteem.

That is why I want to emphasize that trying to make others happy is an accurate and simple mantra for failure.

Remember you will never be able to keep everyone happy and you will never be able to keep even one person happy forever. Live life according to your reality, originality and authenticity. Begin to change the pieces that others like.

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