Could the purpose of any couple's coexistence be a little embarrassment, disorder or unrest?

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- In most cases, peers have close-minded opinions about each other and base their arguments, accusations or accusations on them. Somewhere both are aggressive, somewhere one is aggressive and the other is defensive!

Who is it that builds or maintains relationships to create negative emotions like embarrassment, unrest, sorrow, etc. in life ?! Who would have thought that in Ko'k's love we would suffer so much, or, if we are alone, we would have fun, now let's start coexistence with Ko'k to create unrest ?! It will happen to them that why am I asking such strange looking questions, even if there are only a few exceptions with a distortion of self-torture, would it be anyone else ?!

Exactly! I also want to say that no one builds a relationship to hurt or grieve. The purpose of any couple's coexistence cannot be embarrassment, disorder or unrest. Yes, in many symbiosis peers have become so helpless with the pain of emotions that they even begin to enjoy the pain, 'Learned Helplessness' !! The reality of not accepting is that, with a few exceptions, the purpose of a relationship or coexistence vanishes in the midst of a multitude of questions, big or small. The solution to this problem is not that questions should not be created. We have often said that if we are together, questions have to be created and the solution is to find a joint solution.

The two main reasons why most couples fail to find common solutions to coexistence issues, we mentioned last week, are the lack of skills needed to solve personal issues, and the lack of willpower! We talked about communication skills and inability to understand gender characteristics, let's move on. Their way of thinking or meditating plays an important part in couples' ability to understand or solve their own questions. In our relationship with any person, the feelings and behaviors of both are of fundamental importance. The sum of these two elements is based on our ideology about the person or the relationship with him.

A couple who are a part of everyday life complain about each other, the husband says that the wife has a habit of doubting everything so even small things have to be hidden from it. Otherwise it will suffocate by cross-examination. The wife says that the husband has a habit of making a fuss, does not say anything until we ask him again and again and if we ask, he says he is skeptical! Both of them make such a complaint for each other and throw a silent challenge in front of me saying, 'Give judgment, who is right and who is wrong ?! Who will improve ?! ' Behind the questions asked in a single line of symbiosis is a great essay-like background and it can fool you to say anything without funkosya.

In such cases the blame lies with the beliefs and ideas of the allies that are becoming stronger for each other. One acts according to his own beliefs and the other concludes according to his own beliefs, both behave accordingly, respond, in addition strengthen their own beliefs and the relationship becomes complicated, questions become complicated, quarrels grow! If it is understood, it will be understood that the root defect is in the thoughts for each other or in the way of thinking. If there is a desirable change in thoughts then there will be a change in practice and only then will it be the turn of solving the questions. The relationship between the rest of the theory and each other's findings will continue to grind!

In most cases, peers have close-minded opinions about each other and make arguments, accusations or accusations based on them. Somewhere both are aggressive, somewhere one is aggressive and the other is defensive. The bottom line is that both fail to create the kind of ideological environment needed to solve problems.

The important thing is that when we form an opinion according to our beliefs about the partner, we put a pause in our minds about the possibilities that will change and, incompletely, we say that there is no possibility of change in the star. This ideology of couples plays a very important role in not being able to solve the problems of coexistence.

In order to solve the problems of coexistence, both the partners have to think with an open mind for each other, otherwise they will get tired of the daily struggles and will have to live hand in hand thinking that nothing can happen! When the peers are shaking hands in coexistence, the talk of skills is over and the questions of desire begin, we will continue talking in this regard next week ...

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Questions of coexistence do not bother the emotionally separated comrades even though they live under one roof!