Confusion.

- I am a wife of 25 years and mother of one year old girl. My in-laws are torturing me physically and mentally.

I am a 21 year old unmarried woman. My right breast is slightly smaller than my left breast. Apart from this, there are white spots on the lower part of the right breast and on the armpits and back. I did the treatment so the scars didn't go away, but stopped growing. Probably a factor as to why they're doing so poorly. Will my husband not mind after marriage?

- Ek Kanya (Jamnagar)

* Usually there is a slight difference in the size of both breasts. The reason for this is not a white spot in your case. Talk about rubbing salt in my wounds - d'oh! So they don't mind. However, the white spot should be clarified before marriage.

I am 18 years old. Some time ago, a 30-year-old man fell in love. He has kept all my love letters and threatened to give them at the wedding. His wife and children are also involved. What should I do to get the letters back?

- Ek Kanya (Ahmedabad)

* To fall in love with a middle-aged man is not love, but attraction to the opposite sex. You have taken a foolish step by writing love letters to her. Now you can tell your elder brother or sister this whole thing and get the love letters back from him. If he refuses to return your letters, you may fear or threaten the police. There is no need to panic if parents need to be informed before things get worse. '

I am a B.Com pass girl. The boy who is talking about my marriage is only studying till tenth. However, the boy and his family are in good spirits. He wants an educated son. I'm confused because the boy is less educated. Request appropriate guidance.

A young woman (Bharuch)

The true identity of a person cannot be measured by his or her educational ability. But it is measured by its character, lifestyle, its merits and demerits, temperament etc. So the boy is less educated. Get that out of your mind. Do not marry with any kind of prejudice in mind. It doesn't matter if the boy has all the other qualities. Learning will not interfere with marriage. If the boy earns well then learning is secondary.

I am a wife of 3 years and mother of one year old girl. My in-laws are torturing me physically and mentally. I made several attempts to match, but to no avail. My in-laws are greedy for Kariyavar. Can I get asylum with my daughter in a women's organization?

- A young woman (Surat)

* Many women have to deal with a situation like yours, but it does not make sense to think of leaving home in panic. And now you are not alone. Your daughter's future is also connected with your future. Leaving home will only aggravate your problems rather than reduce them. Right now the hatred of the family is to be borne, but the humiliation and contempt to be endured outside will be more unbearable than the contempt at home.

So try to adapt to the situation by giving up the idea of ​​leaving home. There will come a time when you will feel that the situation has really changed. Also remember that your husband and in-laws brought you to be happy, not annoying. Just think that somewhere you are annoying them with your behavior, isn't it?

I often have thoughts of breaking up with my husband. Is it appropriate to make such a decision to avoid daily quarrels and to think about the future of the children?

- A young woman (Rajkot)

* Your nature is very jealous. That is not the case with husbands and their families. You are also more responsible for domestic strife. Your husband tries his best to avoid this quarrel. That is why he has left his parents' house and started living apart from you. Even though he has taken such a step, you are not happy and you just want to be yours, it shows your overly stubborn attitude, the smallness of your mind. Try to change your nature. Otherwise, your husband will become disillusioned with you. Never be foolish enough to separate from your husband, otherwise your children will be annoyed with you.

-Anita