How good would it be to have a delete button in the brain? .

- Pain-sense - Mrigesh Vaishnava

- "Many people give me the same advice that not to take it on the brain? Can you live without emotion?

Can you live completely isolated from the surrounding events that bother you?''

Middle-aged Shilpa held her head between her hands and pulled her hair, gritted her teeth, slapped her head with both hands and said... "Tyred... Doctor... I'm tired... Everything is going on in this skull. Don't let me live in chains. So there is a desire to die. But I know he won't even let me die in chains. So either change my entire brain or do something to make me forget everything. Just hit "delete" on all the memories of my past that are cluttering the "recycle bean" of my mind... just delete the head with one click the supra computer human brain invented the computer if one click" Delete "If it can be killed, why not in this Supra computer...?"

I said that Shilpaben's talk was true. Surely, if such a system exists in a computer, then it must exist in a super computer, right?... But we have not yet been able to grasp its secrets and beauties.

Some of the stories from the past that Shilpaben often remembered were like this.

In childhood, Shilpa's mother used to compare Shilpa with Motiben Saini unknowingly. Saini is good looking, slim, naughty, excels in garba, dancing, music etc. and Shilpa is dark, normal, interested in reading, music, dancing, gets irritated when getting ready.

Mom tells Shilpa that in our society a normal looking girl hardly gets a graduate boy.

You have to prove that you are one in a million with average appearance and become a qualified post graduate doctor by getting first class first every year. Shilpa accepted this challenge. But mom's frequent criticism that "your appearance is normal" had completely shattered her confidence, now she became an expert surgeon, husband also got an expert super specialist, but those hammers were still pounding in the head even today.

After marriage, Shilpa came to the matrimonial home. Dad created a "double graduate" surgeon and was sent by father-in-law. What other wealth can a father give to his daughter in career? But the mother-in-law kept repeating the same thing and muttering, "Your father has sent Nagi, Poogi." Nothing was given to wear...'' Even though it had been fifteen years of marriage, Shilpaben's mind was always ringing with this hammer. His head would suddenly start throbbing for no apparent reason.

When Shilpa came to Swasur Griha after the wedding, the cold response and disobedience she initially received from Anmol still haunts her.

Thus, Anmol was a very simple and gentle young man by nature. But in devotion to his parents he was shy even of hearing.

Due to the attention and time he has to give to fulfill all the needs of his parents, he inadvertently becomes careless towards Shilpa's feelings. Due to this, at the beginning of the marriage, Shilpa's arms and Urmi's arms, which were filled with code, were completely destroyed.

This neglect received from Anmol and when other family members or elders scolded Shilpa for wrong things, instead of defending Shilpa, he was completely dumb and then in private he said, "It is an elder... he says... we should not take it to heart..." Giving Anmol started to feel stale to him.

Shilpa, who was so lost in her youth, was completely heartbroken. She became a victim of various mental illnesses and physical ailments.

He would drop everything and go to the specialists to get his sick wife examined and treated. But Shilpa didn't mind it.

Today, Shilpa and her husband have been separated for ten years and the husband takes good care of her, but Shilpa is bleeding fresh daily from past wounds. The memories of the past keep swirling in his mind so much that he is permanently sad, angry, stressed. His head hurts constantly and various kinds of aches and pains do not leave him.

WhatsApp and Facebook have found handy company to escape from the painful pain of the past. Some met old friends, some made new ones. Some wounds healed and some bruises were fresh.

Shilpa now says only one thing, "Either press the 'delete' key to free me from the burden of the past or change my mind." Either way, drive me crazy.”

"All people give me the same advice is not to get carried away. But what not to take? That feeling can be lived as zero. Can you live completely detached from the surrounding events that bother you?''

A problem like Shilpaben is seen in many women. Because a woman's emotional needs are somewhat different from a man's. Women are different from men in showing and receiving emotions. A woman's emotional tank has to be constantly filled or else it will show an empty indicator and reach the danger zone anytime.

Women have a sharper memory than men. Not only that, women's brains associated with emotions, the "deep limbic system" is larger, so women's past memories are directly linked to emotions. The harms outweigh the benefits.”

Philosophers have rightly said that 'There is no happiness in life like ignorance and no inheritance like oblivion.'

But mostly this is not possible for women because women use both hemispheres of the brain. The corpus callosum, which connects the two parts, is more developed in women and can easily exchange data from one brain to another.

Men's and women's brains have different structures. Brain sonography and petscan studies have shown that men use only the left side of the brain. This side is associated with reasoning while the right side produces emotions.

Thus, a man's brain is 10% bigger than a woman's brain. A man's brain has 6.5 times more gray matter, while a woman's brain has 10 times more white matter. A woman's brain has more neurons in some areas than a man's. However, this does not mean that the total brain capacity of both is different. But their powers and methods of seeing, interpreting and responding to anything differ.

Reasoning, problem solving, decision-making etc. are powerful weapons for a man using the left side of the brain. While women are leading in memory, patience, listening ability, eloquence, emotionality etc.

But this is a woman's nature. He has an inherited brain. When the male brain was developing in the fetus, testosterone was found in the corpus callosum, which is responsible for exchanging messages between the two parts of the brain and connecting the two parts. hurt him. So the male corpus callosum is not as developed as the female. This connection to the corpus callosum remained weak. While in females this group of neurons remained intact due to the absence of testosterone. For this reason, a man operates from a single part of the brain while a woman works in harmony between both parts of the brain. So it looks like a sculpture.

It needs to be understood. Everything is remembered. It's not his fault. Forgetting is not a manual process. But both the husband and wife have to carefully manage the events with mutual love, cooperation and warmth. However, recurring past thoughts create certain chemical imbalances in the brain that cause thoughts to multiply, thus perpetuating a vicious cycle. To break this, modern psychiatry methods of treatment are effective.

Neurograph:

If you have done something bad or something bad has happened to you, instead of dwelling on it, act in such a way that you and people are forced to erase your past.