Know the positive and negative aspects of having someone overshadow children's minds

- Is your child under peer pressure?

- A certain type of peer pressure on a child-adolescent, if it is negative, can lead to misbehavior in growing youth. So when your child imitates someone, notice it immediately and take necessary action if necessary. Be it a householder or an outsider.

Seven-year-old Sneha used to sit with her mother Smriti and watch dance reality shows on small screens, especially shows for children. Importantly, in these shows he was more interested in watching his judges than the contestants in dancing. She used to watch the dressing and makeup of the female judges of the shows very carefully. Shilpa Shetty was her favorite among them. Slowly Shilpa Shetty got over her heart to such an extent that Sneha found it difficult to do makeup, hairdo and dressing like her. But when there was a fancy dress competition in her school, she grabbed this opportunity. She dressed up just like Shilpa Shetty and went to school. It started to feel like she has become a junior Shilpa Shetty. Now Sneha started doing a google search about Shilpa. When she came to know that Shilpa does yoga, meditation, workout regularly and eats only nutritious food, Sneha also adopted a similar lifestyle. If she gained even a little weight, she would get worried. The influence of this actor on her became a matter of concern for Sneha's mother. Finally Smriti approached a psychiatrist about the matter.

Psychiatrist told Smriti that extreme influence of someone on children and youth and under that influence they behave like a relative, copy them is called peer pressure. One who speaks like a child or youth under the influence of a person, behaves like him, tries to be like him. But as long as this peer pressure is positive there is no reason to worry. Yes, if it is negative, it will surely hinder the development of the child or adolescent. Talking about Sneha, he said that it is very good that she does yoga, meditation, works out, follows her diet like Shilpa Shetty. We can consider this as positive peer pressure. But as she grows older, she becomes anxious as she gains weight, or starts flirting like Shilpa Shetty, and experiences negative peer pressure. In Sneha's case, she has both positive and negative peer pressure from the same person. In other normal circumstances, there is only one type of peer pressure on that child-youth. If it is positive, it becomes beneficial for her. But if it is negative, it goes wrong in the growing youth itself. So when your child imitates someone, notice it immediately and take necessary action if necessary. Be it a householder or an outsider.

Every parent should take note of what the psychiatrist called Smriti's type of peer pressure. He told Smriti that there are four types of peer pressure. 1) Positive, 2) Negative, 3) Active, 4) Passive. Elaborating on these four types of peer pressure, he said...,

* Positive peer pressure:

In this case children or teenagers follow the good things of others. Like if their friends, brothers and sisters or someone in the neighborhood passes with very good marks, they also have a chance to pass with better marks than them. And they start concentrating on studies. Likewise, seeing the family members talking politely with others, they should also talk politely with everyone. This kind of peer pressure becomes beneficial for the future of the child and youth as well as the society.

* Negative Peer Pressure:

When a child-youth imitates someone else's wrong habits, it not only creates problems for themselves, but also for the entire family. Such as taking alcohol, smoking, cheating, lying, etc.

* Active peer pressure:

In such cases, children-teenagers are forced to engage in certain activities such as yenken. Like drinking alcohol or smoking. Under such pressure, activities like driving at high speed become extremely dangerous.

* Passive peer pressure:

In this type, a friend has a great influence on the child-teenager. And under the pressure of this influence he pretends to be like her. When in fact it doesn't turn out like that.

The psychiatrist told Smriti that Sneha Shilpa Shetty is under both positive and negative peer pressure. So it needs to be explained now that weight gain in advancing age may not be a cause of concern, rather not gaining weight becomes harmful to health. She should follow the beneficial aspects of Shilpa's diet. She is still too young to follow it strictly. Also, not everyone needs a certain type of diet plan. So she should eat and drink everything that happens in the house. Similarly, she is still too young to copy her clothes or make-up. She should concentrate on her studies now.

The psychiatrist added that every parent should keep a close eye on their children as well as their teenage children. If they notice any change in their children's behavior, they should be alert immediately and take necessary action if necessary. Be it peer pressure or anything else. If your child seems to be imitating someone under passive peer pressure, explain the importance of it. By doing this, his confidence will be raised. He said about the symptoms of peer pressure seen in adolescence that in such a situation, making new friends, paying more attention to others than oneself, sometimes being very happy and sometimes being filled with anger for no reason, getting sad for no reason, difficulty Panicking, smoking, alcohol or drug consumption due to depression, positive or negative changes in the child's behavior, not going to school, not sleeping etc. are seen. be taken.

- Vaishali Thakkar