Confusion.

- I am a 37 year old married woman. When I was in college, I had sex with a boy seven or eight times. He was wearing a condom at the time. Now I am afraid that AIDS will not happen, right?

I am a wife of 3 years and mother of two children. She was in love with a young man before the wedding, but we could not get married. The young man has divorced his wife. He suddenly met me. I explained to him that it was not appropriate to meet him in this way, but he did not believe me. I am very happy with my husband. I don't understand what to do.

- A young woman (Mumbai)

* Meeting an ex-boyfriend after marriage is dangerous for your happy marriage. Understand and accept the fact instead of being overwhelmed by emotions. If your ex-boyfriend wants to have a forced relationship with you, refuse to meet him in strict terms and do not deal with him in any way in the future, this is in your and your family's interest.

I am a 6 year old girl from a happy home. The boy I came to see a year ago is an engineer but works for a meager salary in a private company. My parents refuse to marry him because he is poor. We like each other. What do I do?

- A young woman (Valsad)

* Every parent wants to see their child happy. It is especially important for the daughter not to have to suffer in-laws. Maybe that's why your parents decided not to marry the young man. If you both like each other, you can persuade your elders to marry, otherwise it is in your best interest to have your parents marry you.

I am 18 years old. The young man I love has a government job. We both wanted to marry each other, but due to my young age decided to get married after two-three years. My father refused to have a relationship with the house because we were rich, so I even tried to commit suicide. During this time her father became ill. He was in a hurry to get married, so he got married elsewhere. Although I have stopped talking or meeting her, I cannot live without her. What do I do?

- A bride (Anand)

* How can we move forward in life by remembering the past and crying? Accept the truth of the present and forget that young man, it is in the interest of both of you. One thing you should not forget is that he is now married. Your marriage should not be shattered because of you. Second, you are still young. You complete your study first. At the right time, your father will marry you when he finds the right character, that is the good of all.

I am a married woman of 3 years. When I was in college, I had sex with a boy seven or eight times. He was wearing a condom at the time. I then had sex with a married man eight or nine times without using a condom. However, he used to expel the senses from the vagina during ejaculation. I have not had sex with anyone except my husband after marriage. I befriended a 20-year-old boy a month ago.

Initially we not only talked on the phone, but also had sex wearing a condom when we met at a hotel eight days ago. However, I felt that I was betraying my husband. So she immediately let go of it and did not even let it discharge into the vagina. Now I am afraid that AIDS will not happen, right? I don't even want to test it for fear of what will happen if someone is identified. Give me proper advice.

- A Woman (Surat)

* AIDS is not likely to occur if you have sex wearing a condom. You don't even have to check for AIDS. One thing to keep in mind is that even if you have had sex without wearing a condom by mistake, you can get tested for AIDS for only ten rupees without being named in a general hospital like KEM. One thing that has happened is that you can't change it anymore. So it is useless to regret it.

Understand every step you take in the future so that you do not regret it later. The only thing on the mind right now is to understand that whatever happened was determined by the will of the Lord. Convincing the mind that this was supposed to happen happened. If we want to take one breath and then take another, then we need the kindness of the owner to move forward, then the feeling of inferiority will be lessened.

- Anita